I dated my ex for 2 and a half years

Question

we were engaged for over 1, then she out of the blue ended it nearly 6 months ago, i gave everything to give her a future she deserved, even moved, and took a job i hated to give her a dream life, for over 2 years i poured my heart soul and blood into that relationship, now its over i cnt move on i need advice, i got rid of everything that reminded me of her including my house and job but i cnt let her go, i need to, for my sanity, help me plz!!!

thanks

Answer 1

aww i'm sorry. try to get more involved in other things such as church, sports, or anything that will keep you busy. when i couldn't get over an ex, i started becoming more involved in church life, started hanging out with different people, and eventually started dating someone else :)

before all this, i couldn't get over my ex for the longest time because all i did was obsess over him. even trying to forget about him was what ruined me more. don't concentrate on what you can do to forget about her...just move forward in life, and pick up some new hobbies! getting more involved in other things is a great way to experience new elements of life, and a great way to meet new people :)

Answer 2

get a new girl. duhhh

Answer 3

Breaking up after a long-term relationship is never easy, especially when you aren't the one who wanted it to end.  It will take time to heal and move on.  In the meantime, take up a new hobby you've always wanted to try.  That will help with any extra time on your hands when you feel yourself thinking to much.  Write a blog.  Get things off your chest.  No one has to read it except you.  That will help.  Each day, do something just for you - slowly the days will be easier to get through.  It won't happen overnight, but it will happen.  In the meantime, keep your mind and body busy.  You'll feel better emotionally and physically.  You'll get up one day and be ready to move forward and find love again.  I promise.

Answer 4

I'm totally going through the same thing. I've changed my life, lost 80 lbs, moved to a new place, got a new job. I can't shake her. I don't listen when people say "Go see other women." It's just not that easy. I feel as though I've had closure on the relationship...I just can't believe it didn't work. I had everything, and then bam...Gone. It's like no matter what I do I just can't get comfortable. With as much as people go through this, you would think someone would have something...anything, constructive to say, but all they say is move on to the next problem.

Answer 5

I definitely understand.  I was with my ex for 2 years and had to get rid of everything - pictures, gifts, emails...everything.  

I had to cut off all contact.  I got rid of his email address, phone number, facebook profile, etc.  Its the first step to taking care of YOU.  

It hurts, it sucks and honestly, time is the only thing that will heal this.  Youll think that no one else will come along...they will.  Probably before youre even ready.  Push yourself to go out.  Get with your friends.  CRY.  Yell, scream.  Get it all out.

Its been over a year since my ex and I broke up.  Ive dated about 6 or 7 guys since then...none of them Ive fallen for, but its the process for moving on.  Ive gotten a lot closer to my friends.  Ive been doing things I would have never done if he and I had stayed together.  Everything happens for a reason.  It may take time to see this reason, but I promise, this was supposed to happen.  

Lots of luck to you.  Keep your head high

Answer 6

Keep in mind theres a million girls how are dying to have someone so devoted, its her loss and just dont let it make you bitter to others because you'll find the perfect one...and why wait? start looking now!

Answer 7

I'm so sorry to hear that. Try going out and doing things. Go on dates with other woman. You don't have to start a new relationship yet, but at least try talking to other, new woman. You should start feeling better in no time as soon as those other woman are interested in you (even if your not in them).