I desperatly need advice, I don't want to lose my baby.?

Question

My husband and I were happy together, then we got married and I fell pregnant while on honeymoon. The day we told everyone we were expecting, he quit his job and has been jobless for 2 months now. I'm now 13 weeks pregnant. I am the sole income in our home. He sits at home and drinks by himself during the day, and when I come home from work he is drunk. When I tried to leave, he became verbally abusive and slapped me. He then takes my vehicle to go drink further, and comes home at 4am and picks another fight because I am sleeping. I love my baby so much, and I am so scared I will lose the baby if he carries on. I am depressed, and I know that is not healthy for the baby, what can I do?

Answer 1

If your trying to leave you could stay with some family for a while, if ur payin for that house you should try to get him to leave, i really hope things get better for you!

Answer 2

GET OUT and GET OUT QUICK!! You will loose your baby if you stay with him! TRUST ME!

I was in a violent relationship for 6yrs with my daughters dad he too had a drink problem i really did think he would change i listened to every excuse going from him. I really wanted him to change as deep down i truely did love him, i suppose i still do, silly as it may sound, but it was put up with being a door mat or have a life with my daughter. My daughter always came first no matter what!!

You deserve so much better out of life. You and your daughter do. Just think if he is being violent towards you he could also be violent towards your baby. The violence could get worse!!!

PLEASE GET OUT AND LEAVE! Get an injunction out on him to stop him from coming anywhere near you this is what i had to do!!

There are people out there that can help you in situations like this so dont think you are on your own!!! All the best!!

If you would like to just talk as sometimes it can be better to talk to someone that isnt too involved you can add me!!

I know exactly what you are going through!!!

Answer 3

Leave him!!!!! i mean it, if u love your baby u will just leave him.

Think about it, if he carries on and you have your baby , what if he in a drunken rage hurts your baby, or what if whilst your pregnant he hurts you and you miscarry!

Please for both of you leave now.

Answer 4

leave and leave fast...... id stay with a long time friend or family member to get through this time ( also for support and safety). He sounds like poison, you and your baby dont need that/ deserve it. Maybe if he gets into rehab and goes to AA a family future would be possible but from experience with my only family addiction issues..... its VERY hard for people addicted to alcohol or substances to change and they do become a life long hassle if they can not get over the problem.

Answer 5

You've received good advice.  Leave for your baby's sake.  I'm praying for your safety and courage and that you will find the help and provision that you need.  My mum's first husband was like that and said if she got rid of the kids he would stay with her.  Of course she was working, and he a parasite.

Answer 6

well for one thing you need to fill out a police report

then if things get worse a restraining order

and yes it is bad and unhealthy because if he were to hit you and you fell it could harm the baby

also if you never do leave him and you raise the baby in an enviorment like that is also bad

when i was a baby my parents fought all the time

and i would have anxiety attacks and start choking when i was only weeks old

baby know things even when they are that young

Answer 7

While he thinks youre at work, leave your home. Take as much as you can without him being suspicious. Stay at your mom's. Fly if that's far away. Do whatever it takes. Try not to stay at a motel close to your home, because he might try to come after you. Just get out of the situation quick - I know it hurts, but you have to think of yourself and your baby.

Answer 8

What the h**l?!! How come you married such kind of man?!! You are not lucky enough. I feel so sorry for you.

But anyway. The baby is the most important for you. As other people suggested, you should/have to take over all the financial control, secondly, leave him without telling. Do not just go to your mum's place cause he is brutal and he will find out then you and your baby will be in danger. Go to a place that he can not find you. Be careful when you are working, because he can go to your office to look for you. Find some friends accompany with you and make sure you are safe all the time.

Thirdly, call a lawer and deal with the divorce affairs, make sure he will be paying you and your baby. At the same time, just try to have more rest, ask your friends/relatives for help with finance.

Fourthly, at that stage, you husband may eventually convince you to stay with him again. DO NOT agree!!! now you can see his true face. I believe that he is ultimately a terrible person. Just take care of you baby and move on in your life. You will see a better person.

I will pray for you.

Hope everything works fine for you and your baby will be healthy. You will be happy with you life and leave the darkness. Amen!!

Answer 9

The answer sucks, but it's simple.  LEAVE.  Get the h**l out of there, for you and your baby's sake.  Tell him if he wants you back and wants this marriage to work, he better clean up his act and quit drinking.  Make him agree to counseling, A.A., and anger management.  If he doesn't, then it's probably best to cut your losses, grieve, and move on with your life...I am sorry to say it, I know it sucks.  But you gotta protect yourself and your child.

Answer 10

hey maam dont take tension jus b calm & firm .cleverly leave ur hubby widout infrming him go 2 sum whos near&dear 2 u(literally)& sit wid dem & take out a solutn m sure if u'll find a way u'll discover a nice new & an unique way.

Answer 11

when he passes out asleep ..GET OUT..PLEASE..BEFORE HE KILLS YOU AND THE BABY.....

Answer 12

I would talk to a woman's shelter or have some resources pulled in from family and friends..You have to get out of this relationship not just for the baby but for yourself.You are jusy a newly wed and dealing with issues that is full of red flags for an abusive relayionship.talk to someone ASAP.Yopu and your kid deserve a safe place to be.

Answer 13

is everyone too stupid to call the cops?