I did something bad to one of my teachers? ?

Question

Last year, my friend and my brother and I did something really bad to a teacher and we posted some bad stuff about her on the Internet (not using her real name or anything, just codes we made up). It was really wrong and I realize that but now I feel really guilty because yes, we got in trouble, but now I realize what we did and the extent of how bad it was and how much it probably hurt this teacher and she's been so good to us and I want to make up for it, or "make it better", but I can't undo the past and I don't know how. I feel really bad for what we did and I already apologized a lot of times but I still feel so bad. What makes it worse is that I used to be her favourite (even though everyone says teachers don't play favourites, they HAVE them) and I was her best student and she told me so but I've ruined everything and I feel so bad about was and what could have been and I want to "make it better". What can I do to "fix things"?

Answer 1

have you ever heard of karma? Be prepared for it.

Answer 2

There isn't anything more you can do at this point. You say you were punished for what you did, and have apologized but now you want that same attention you received from her before to continue. Probably not going to happen, and I can't say that I blame her. It's hard work being a teacher, you and your actions are judged every day by students, parents, other teachers, staff, and the principal. It sounds like you really damaged this teacher and that is hard to rebuild. I wouldn't blame her for not trusting you and for being very careful around you.

Do you realistically expect her to go out of her way to be kind to you? Every time she sees you, she is reminded of what you did. Be polite to her but let her move on. I would ask...why would you do something mean to a person who was kind to you?

Answer 3

tell her your really sorry, maybe write her a apology letter and get her a nice gift...

good luck

Answer 4

Since you already effed this up horribly on your end, perhaps you can make sure that your peers aren't up to the same thing and stop/educate them before they make the same mistake.

You'd be paying it forward in a way.

And really, to be a "favorite" these days... Just by NOT giving the teacher a constant headache, like 80% of the class, makes you a favorite to him/her.

Answer 5

maybe post and apolige on the schools page and write something really good about her too... you can't expect her to forgive you if you don't forgive yourself,    wow thats corny but it's true

Answer 6

WOw you went really out there you put all that effort to bashing that teacher thats f**** up and she played you as a favorite what possessed you to do this after she was ggod to you wow you are really mean she could of sued you for slander and ruining her like that I wonder how you treat your parents I know that you say that apologised and feel bad but imagine how you hurt her like that after she treated you really good you messed her up not sure what to do she doesnt trust you after this probably I wouldnt Ihope your boyfriend doesnt break up with you wonder what you will do then!

Answer 7

some solutions:  

1. take her on a week long cruise

2. make her a house yourself...(she'll see the effort you put in)

3. get her a 100000 white roses

4. get her to meet her dream guy if she isnt taken already

5 .SMILE AT HER!!!!

Answer 8

nothing can't really been done.. even say sorry , but the reputation of your teacher has been severely tarnished.

hope that you don't do that again in future.

Answer 9

Every time you feel guilty, listen to Linkin Park - No more Sorrow

Answer 10

Maybe that teacher would like to forget the incident too.  You seem to be dwelling on this.  Let it go, you have apologized already over and over again, there doesn't seem to be anything else to do.  Just let it die down.  Hopefully this will help you to become a better person to help others.  hopefully this will help you to become a better person than you were at that time in your life.  Were you going through a bad time when you did this?  It sounds like you have your life back on track if it bothers you so much.  Just let it die down and help others.

Answer 11

You can't fix it.  You have already apologized and now you just have to hope that she forgives you. You can still be nice to her and help other students who may be thinking of doing something similar to what you did understand how wrong it is and the repercussions of those actions.  You may never have the same relationship with that teacher again, but hopefully you have learned from your mistake and will make wiser decisions in the future.  

Answer 12

First thing I thought of was why the h**l would you do something stupid and mean like that, and especially to someone who really likes you?  But then I thought about it, and though I haven't done anything really cruel and mean like that, I can understand getting caught up in something stupid and not thinking at all.  I can also understand how horrible you feel, because for some reason I kinda feel really bad for her just reading your question. Lol i'm weird like that.

Basically, I don't think you can/should ever forgive yourself.  What you did was hurtful and wrong, and I hope you never forget that, because it will stop you from making the same mistake.  But I understand that you want to make things right with your teacher.  Of course you should, to show her you know what an *** you've been, and make her realize that it wasn't out of spite, it was out of stupidity.

I think, if you still have her as a teacher, work extra hard in class.  If you're normally loud and joking around, be quiet.  Go the extra mile with everything you do, and pay attention all the time.  Give her a present, if you know her well, maybe something you know she likes, to show that you care enough for that.  Other than that, I'm sorry, I don't know anything else you can do.  Either she'll forgive you or she won't.  I think, though, that she will understand kids do stupid things, and she will forgive you eventually, though she may not tell you.  

If you don't mind me asking, why did you do that stuff, if you knew she liked you so much?  That just doesn't make sense to me.

Answer 13

I suggest getting her either a really nice plant for her classroom or a bouquet of flowers & a card to go along with it.

You should write something to the sort of (you can paraphrase to your liking) : in retrospect of your actions, you realized how uncalled for & hurtfull your prank was. Write that you have matured, at the time did not fully understand the severity of your actions & will use this as a learning experience for the future. Explain that you now understand that what was thought to be a harmless joke can have very bad emotional reprocutions on someone that you infact respected & thought highly of & that you truly hope that she can forgive you for.

It sounds like you are really genuine in your regrets for your actions & if you find a way to express that in your card then she should be able to see that & will forgive you, if she hasn't already.

Hope that helped, use it as a learning experience and don't do stupid **** like that ever again. As you get older, you will learn the value of not burning bridges.

Answer 14

if u do something wrong apologize or u pray to god tell him sorry about the sins and he forgive u but u have to respect and close your eyes the teacher be a good student again to her and give a  sorry hug or sorry note good luck  

Answer 15

you can't make it better.

you only feel bad becuase you feel guilty becuase you did a stupid thing.

give them a bunch of flowers with a sorry card and write down an explanation of just how sorry you are.

and see if that helps the situation.

Answer 16

You can do nothing to repair this damage.  Your cost for insulting and hurting this person that cared so much for you is guilt for the rest of your life.  Maybe you will think twice before doing something this irresponsible again.  

Answer 17

give her presents and work for her

Answer 18

I'd say to put an ad in the paper about what a louse you are, and make sure a copy gets on her desk.  

Seriously, you can't salve your conscience through deeds very often.  If she won't forgive you, then time is the only thing that will cure it.  You'll just have to wait to feel better...

Answer 19

You want to "make it better?"  Don't fix, it's dwelling on what happened.  Move on, but keep in mind the actions that made you feel this way and hurt someone else.  Use the sick feeling you have and grow from it by doing positive things.  You are your own person and I don't want to tell you to become the person the teacher wants you to be, but become the person that the teacher would respect and go out of her way for.  Prove to the teacher you are not that person by your actions in the future.  

Answer 20

lesson learned. how bad was it? i hope the she has forgiven you. just don't think about it too much and move on. do something her. be extra nice be genuine.  

Answer 21

WOW that was REALLY LOW of you to do something like that to someone who really liked you. Why would you do that to someone, even though you knew it was wrong?! so what was it?? did it give some kind of adrenaline rush to you or did think it was funny?

Answer 22

you cant really do anything now except just if your in her class do all your work dont joke around with her or anything and if youll be just like quite she'll end up talking to you sooner or later.

This really reminds me of the movie mean girls. (its a really good movie)

Answer 23

I don't mean to insult you but why did you do it in the first place? And it seems really stupid. And you cant change past mistakes, only make a better future.

Answer 24

You've already asked this, and we've answered it.  You can't "fix things", they're already done and out there.  The damage has been done.  It can't be "fixed".

This is a life lesson for you - things that you do affect others, often in ways that you can't take back.  The only way that you can make this up to your teacher is by truly learning from it, by using it to make better decisions in the future.

Answer 25

apologize