I did something horrible: I need advice?

Question

I'm in love with a wonderful guy he really helped me when I needed it. I got kicked out of my mom's house and he let me move in and not pay any rent and he also showers me with presents. But he's been working a lot lately and I've been lonely so I've been spending a lot of time with this guy who is a TA at my college and teaches my pre calcus class and to make a long story short I cheated on him by sleeping with this guy! I'm also still attracted to the other guy because he seems to have a lot in common with me and he says he wants to see more of me. I feel really guilty about it especially since he told me he feels bad about leaving me alone so he can work and offered to take me out of town for the weekend.Should I tell him or should I try to let it go?

Answer 1

I think that you should tell him, because if he's going to find out someday, it's not going to be good. So yeah, but if you really love him tell him is the best way.

Answer 2

Tell him.  Get your own independence and stop depending on a guy to take care of you.  It was cold what you did, but you can take responsibility for it.  He needs to understand that money isn't going to buy him love.  He needs to find a woman who is independent and he needs to find the time for a relationship.  

Answer 3

How old are you. Sounds like you need to move in with a relative and get a job or go to school. Don't define yourself by hooking up with guys just because they give you a little attention. It will go south in a hurry. My best friend from hs did this and her life is awful.

Answer 4

I think, if there's a chance he could find out from someone else, it's best you tell him.

But - if you have learnt from your mistake and won't ever do it again, maybe you shouldn't tell him.  Telling him would make you feel better but him feel worse.

It's up to you to decide the best thing to do.

Answer 5

You just can trust women. You really suck lady. Just my opinion, tell him the truth. He probably has seen this before since women have been decieving men since moby d**k was a minnow. Look at Adam and Eve. From the dawn of time you have been at it....going strong too. Good luck...

Answer 6

You need to get out of his house and his life. It would be the best thing for him. You have to tell him.

You said " I'm in love". Love doesn't do what you did. What you did was dishonest and hurtful. I don't think you should be in a relationship with anyone if this is the way you treat people. Guys have feelings too you know.

Answer 7

I don't think you should tell him..at least not now. Wait until you know what you're going to do, and give him time. When you know what you want, then tell him. If you choose to be with him, and he rejects you, then it's your fault. If he chooses to forgive you, then you got lucky, and you probably don't deserve him. If you don't, then, whatever.

It isn't fair for your boyfriend if you're cheating on him. He's done a lot for you and you're not doing a good job at repaying him. If you say the problem is that he's never home you're wrong. You say you're in love with him, and yet you treat him that way? You can't be in love with 2 people, because if that's the case then it's not love in the first place. In my opinion you're just horny, and don't have anyone to "fulfill your needs". Sorry if it seems mean and rude, but that's how it seems.