I did something really bad and now i need help please help me?

Question

my cousin and her boyfriend are getting married in 94 days (they are eloping and im the only one that knows about it)

well i messaged him on his chat and i pretended to be someone i wasnt and i made fun of him (he didnt know it was me) and then when he called his sister and she booted me i called my cousin to tell her it was me and to ask him to stop

well now he's all mad at her and thinks she had something to do with it, like i was flirting with him and stuff and i was trying to see if he would flirt back to see if he would cheat on her and he didnt well he thinks it was all her idea and he wont listen to her when she says she had no clue and hes mad at her and wont answer the phone and told her not to bother him and its all my fault and shes stuck in the middle of it all and i realy dont know how to make it better i emailed them and told them but hes not hear ing it i cant call because it is long distance and my mom and dad cant afford the call

what do i do to make it better? =(

Answer 1

Seeing if he would of cheated on her wasn't something you should of done. You were not the one getting married to him. That's something the fiance would want to do/would do, not the sister,friend or someone else because it can cause problems like it did with you. People usually only do that anyways if something is going wrong in the relationship or if something suspicious is going on. Even if there was something going on you should of stayed out of it unless she asked for your help.

Answer 2

just stick to being honest....if he doesn't believe her he has issues

Answer 3

If he behaves like this he is not mature enough to get married let alone have a child

Answer 4

Yes you did a real stupid and immature thing, however, it showed your cousin the bad side of the guy she was going to marry.  If they were to get married it doesn't sound like he has the maturity to make a good husband..  If she is pregnant then he will have to pay child support and he will get visitation, but with his lack of maturity the marriage was not likely to last anyway.

Answer 5

Immaturity at its finest.  You are all too young to be involved with such grown up things like marriage, let alone child rearing.  

Go back to Jr. High school.

Answer 6

dumb son of a *****,get a job

Answer 7

Moron! Who asked you to get involved?!?!?! It is your fault! May 2009 be filled with drama compacted with drama! You deserve it you stupid typical, have to be in the middle, cant mind your own business, no life having, home wrecking, too bit, deceitful *****!!!!

You wanted to see what happes well now you know!!! idiot!

Answer 8

Well you cannot make anyone believe what they dont want to.. Give him some time.

If he really loves her he will forget about it. If he doesnt get over it then maybe you did a good thing...

Answer 9

I think the boyfriend has cold feet and was just looking for an excuse.  If he really loved her, they'd be able to talk and work through this problem and he'd be willing to believe she wasn't trying to trick him.

It doesn't sound like you did anything that would be worth breaking up a marriage even if your cousin did ask you to test him.

Don't blame yourself...it sounds like the boyfriend is being really immature.

Answer 10

Why the h**l did you do that!

Look the only thing you can do is try and get them together and really tell them the truth,honestly from the bottom of your heart.

Answer 11

Buy a Calling card and call. and write a letter letting him know how sorry you are.

Answer 12

You are really dumb for what you did and if I were your cousin, I would be incredibly upset with you.

There is no advice for you except next time use your head.

Answer 13

All of you are way too young to be doing any of this. Neither of them need to get married because they're both immature as h**l.

Answer 14

call them and talk.

payphones are cheap for long distance calls, so get some quarters and a stool its gone take a minute.

Answer 15

He sounds like a jerk.  

Ask yourself and ur sister this with the current situation at hand: Why is this planned union a secret in the first place?

And now he wants to cut it off over some silly chat **** he shouldn't necessairly be partaking in if he's a grown man.

Sound sto me he has cold feet and is an idiot.  Also- getting out of the marriage was premeditated b/c he left that door open with a secret, far-off eloping plan.

Your sister was duped and of all the ways he could of let her down- u ended up offering the easiest way out in fact.

Answer 16

Well how interesting that both the bride and the cousin posted messages on Y/A just minutes apart.  So...which one are you really?  The bride or the cousin?  This whole thing is a joke.

Answer 17

Got 2 accounts? And making up fake questions? Or does it just so happen that you and your cousin are asking pretty much the same question within minutes of each other???

Answer 18

Well the fact that he doesn't believe her shows that deep inside he does not trust her at all, and the way he is reacting makes me think that this is a way out for him to not go with the wedding.  

Send him an email again saying that you are sorry for what you did, that you just wanted to do a joke, and that you regret doing it because you are causing their separation.  There is nothing else you can do, you can't call him, and there is no other way to approach him... maybe talk to his sister, and explain her the hole deal, that it was something that you did on your own and ask her to talk to him to help you make him understand.  If this does not work then just stop, if they don't get together maybe what you did was a sign to stop your cousin  marrying someone that does not deserve her, trust is one of the most important things.  Talk to your cousin, apologize and help her in anyway you can with her pregnancy, if she is.  

Maybe he will just need time and realize that he made a mistake in not trusting her.

Hope for the best for your cousin, and don't ever do something like this again.  Be there for your cousin, family is  the most important thing.

Answer 19

*cough*..

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

game over darling. =]

Answer 20

I think he really needs to GROW UP! If he broke up with her just cuz of this, I doubt their marriage could last.

Answer 21

sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do. If the relationship is so shallow that he doesnt believe her then it seems to me that he may have just been looking for an excuse to get out of eloping. He wont answer your calls or email...hopefully he will come to his sences. Until then, I am sorry to say, there isnt much you can do. Especially if he doesnt believe you or the woman he was supposed to marry. I hope it works out for your cousin...

Answer 22

OMG

well it was a pretty dumb thin to do in the first place but you need to  get outta it.

u really need to let ur cousin boyfriend no the truth somehow

coz if u dont

it will only get worse

so clean it up b4 he mess gets bigger

Answer 23

HAHA.  That's what you get.

Answer 24

Strange, your cousin seems to be here as well.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 25

welll i guess u should get together with them both on da phone or something i guess if its that important ur parents shouls at least pay for the call oh yeah well yall get 2gether and work this out i hope the best for u 3 especially ur cuzin i can imagine how down she must be now well good luck hope i helped

Answer 26

You're going to have to beg your parents to make the call, so that you do not ruin their relationship. I just don't understand why her bf would automatically think that she is a part of this, if they like each other so much. He doesn't seem like a very trusting person of your cousin.

Answer 27

Sometimes we just have to live with the mistakes we make. You have said that you are sorry, and that's the best you can do. If he truly loved her, he wouldn't think that of her anyway...he would believe her when she said that she didn't know about it.

Answer 28

Patricia. One thing you can do is leave us alone, from now on out. This isn't the first time you've mortified Carl. I know you feel bad, but until you learn how to communicate with people, you shouldn't be doing it. I know you're sorry, and I forgive you.

Write Carl a letter, you know our address.

Email me if you want to talk further.