I did something really bad?

Question

Last year, my friend and my brother and I did something really bad to a teacher and we posted some bad stuff about her on the Internet (not using her real name or anything, just codes we made up). It was really wrong and I realize that but now I feel really guilty because yes, we got in trouble, but now I realize what we did and the extent of how bad it was and how much it probably hurt this teacher and she's been so good to us and I want to make up for it, or "make it better", but I can't undo the past and I don't know how. I feel really bad for what we did and I already apologized a lot of times but I still feel so bad. What makes it worse is that I used to be her favourite (even though everyone says teachers don't play favourites, they HAVE them) and I was her best student and she told me so but I've ruined everything and I feel so bad about was and what could have been and I want to "make it better". What can I do to "fix things"?

Answer 1

I don't think you will make anyone feel better by constantly apologizing. That just keeps dredging up the bad feelings. I would move forward and here's how...

Write her (and your parents?) a letter telling them what you learned from that experience. Explain how you would handle the situation differently now. Explain how this makes you more aware of other people's feelings, of how the things we do and say really do matter. Explain how this "bad thing" you did has made you grow up and be more responsible and mature.

We all do things we regret. If we are smart we take those mistakes and learn from them and change our behavior. BE nicer. Don't  just say you'll be nicer. Actually do it. Be more careful of people's feelings. She and your parents will see this and will note your maturity. And you'll feel better, too.

Answer 2

quit stressing. forget about it. its not that bigga deal believe me

Answer 3

send her a big big bunch of flowers and a note:) spill out your feeling into it and appologise

very proud btw

Answer 4

if u apoligized thats all u can do thats life  and Im sorry

Answer 5

Look, the best thing you do to disregard the first posters very true but very unbeneficial in regards to actually helping you. I would recommend that you write a hand written letter and put some thought into it, describe your actions, and how bad you feel now that you did what you did. Apologize sincerely don't just sit there and think it's going to get better if you do nothing. Take the time to show her that you feel bad for what you've done, words in a small sentence are near nothing. two pages long, and don't ramble make it sincere and this shouldn't just take you a couple hours, take the time to write over a couple of days!

Also on another note make sure you give the best and detailed description that you can that entails that you've learned your lesson.

Hope that helps, and yes it does help to start the mending process between student teacher relationship.

Remember take your time and good luck.  

Answer 6

That's tough. You might not be able to "fix" something like that. I'd say the best you can do is sincerely apologize to your teacher which you seem to have already done. You might just have to move on from this and make sure you don't do something like that ever again. Learn from it and move on because dwelling on it won't help anyone.

Answer 7

Unfortunately, you can't fix things like this.  Its just something that you are going to have to accept as an experience and a life lesson.  You've apologized.  There's nothing more you can do.  At least now you truly understand that all of your words and actions have consequences.  You'll probably regret this poor decision for the rest of your life.  You just have to accept that you can't change the past though.

Answer 8

well u could tell her that u never really meant to hurt her at all and u just want her to know that ur sorry!(:and btw u can not change the past u just have to go on with the future !