I discovered this weekend my partner of 4 years has cheated with his ex for the past 10 months?

Question

my heart is broken, it turns out he,d told her we,d split up. He works away so managed to deceive us both. i spoke to the other girl and she,s as bewildered as i am. He wants to sort things with me, but iv heard so many things that it seems like a stranger im talking about.

He told me he,s cheated on everyone he,s been with. i feel utterly lost , desperate and heartbroken. can anyone give me any advice where do i go from here?

Answer 1

I can only say that you are luckier than some who invested more than 4 years in a unfaithful relationship. I don't mean to sound so cold but as with me I found out 10 yrs. and 3 kids later. The only thing to do now is move forward and leave all this behind you. Yes, it will be hard at times but I finally figured out I deserved better than to stay with this man who did nothing but lie and cheat. It will be a long hard road but you WILL survive, to love again, and hopefully with a man who truly loves you. Good luck.

Answer 2

Dump his sorry *** and try and make it a team effort with the other girl involved so he gets nothing! I was cheated on (also was a partner of 4 years) and I was distraught and thought my life had ended.  I got over it, rekindled my social life (used bebo etc to get in touch with old friends) and I'm now very happy and with my soulmate!

Good Luck!

Answer 3

LOL, he sounds like he is basically saying, look, I cheat on everyone, you're not the first one so it's not a big deal.

That's terrbile.

Answer 4

dump him, you deserve better.He'll never stop cheating.

Answer 5

I'm sorry. I'm also dealing with a broken heart, it is so painful!  Probably the best thing would be for you to move on and away from cheater.  I do believe once someone cheats on you you'll never forget it and it will come up over and over again - staying with him only will postpone the inevitable.  Good luck

Answer 6

I would let him go if i were you.The thing is each day you spend with him is gone for ever when you could have spent it with someone who will care about you and not go behind your back and sleep around.there's more fish in the sea.respect your self and leave this fool.

Answer 7

move on...you deserve better...

Answer 8

stay away from him.

If you do get back together with him i doubt you will beable to forget what he did. i know i wouldn't. you deserve better than that.  

Answer 9

Yea.  Leave the Playa alone he is probably telling that woman or another one the same crappy line he is using on you!!

DON'T Take that DOG back!!  He  is a dirty hoe!!

Answer 10

Im so sorry to hear this. I think alot of people have been in your position including myself.

I thought I could forgive him and move on but it is just so hard.

The best thing to do is have no contact with him at all and try and move on with your life.

You deserve so much better and should not be treated like this.

Good luck with what ever you decide. x

Answer 11

forget him , look at me im broken hearted too , but i stand up and be strong , its not the end of the world , so many fish in the sea  

Answer 12

It must be heart breaking and a shock, but you need to start healing. Go on a small holiday with a good friend or even alone. Remember, this man was sleeping with another woman for 10 months, d**n that dude. Don't feel sad, feel RAGE!!! If you maybe have a credit card linked to his account, go out and spoil yourself. Go to a spa, get some new shoes, or whatever your thing is. Or if there was something you always wanted to do, but never really got the chance to do it while with him, go now and just do it. Tell yourself that this is not the end, it is a fresh start to do your life the way you want.

Answer 13

This is a tricky one, but do you really want to be with someone who is a cheat, like they say, once a cheat always a cheat.

I think it may be best to cut your losses and find someone you deserve, you deserve so much better than that.

Just think for more or less a year your relationship has been based on a lie.

Hope your ok tho x

Answer 14

All I can say is "Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater." Take out the trash! There is someone else out there that's looking for you and will treat you the way you NEED to be treated.

Answer 15

unless you're willing to accept this type of behavior from him for the rest of your life-your first step is away from him--then sort it out

Answer 16

You kick him out - he admits that he cheats on everyone and he is not going to change - despite his promises -

Hard as it may be to take right now - move on and have nothing more to do with him because he will hurt you again in the future

Answer 17

If he is cheating and will cheat then you are wasting your time with him. He isn't married is he? Cause if he is then you have wasted your time from the beginning

Answer 18

Be strong and leave him.

nothing else you need to consider when it comes to an issue of cheating, especially after he told you that he has be cheating ever since he had 1st date.

don't be weak for him, do NOT expect him to change for you, he will not. he has cheated behind your back for 10 months, so whatever he says now is just making you a fool, don't fall in that trap.

Stand up and walk away from this pain, you don't deserve his nonsense.

alright, i know it's hard after 4 years, but think about it this way "would you rather suffer more from his misbehavior in the future?"

no im sure you want something better in life.

so, act now, cry as much as you want, then pick yourself up and walk away!

good luck

Answer 19

Get rid and find someone who is loyal to you.

Answer 20

He is not worth your tears, just leave him and let him stay with his ex.  You deserve better than that, and you know it.  I know it is not easy, but he has left you no alternative.

I wish you all the luck!

Answer 21

It's sad, but it's true:  most people don't change.  If he cheated on everyone he's ever been with, of course he would be cheating on you.  

You have to let this man go from your heart, or he will hurt it over and over.  You don't deserve that.  No one does.

Answer 22

no advice, what you are feeling is your embarrassment at not knowing & wanting to make sumthing fake be real. better 2 move on & learn from it.

Answer 23

Get out of his life and stay out of it. He is hopeless!

Answer 24

Dump him and move on with your life. It sounds like you are way to good for him. Just tell him how much of a looser he is, and then leave =]

Have a makeover, pamper yourself as much as possible, then have a girlie night out with your friends. Trust me, you will soon feel better =]