I do NOt KNow what to do?

Question

about y BF of three years next month. its like our relationship is not going anywhere. he says he loves me but how much i dont know. he is 32 in oct. lives with his mom. doesnt have a drivers license, smoke weed he does however have a job as a security guard. i asked him to move in with me because that way we have two income and we save towards the future. he told me he is not ready and to this day he is still not ready. its just everything he is not ready for and i am at the point where I am so tired of this nonesense. i dont know maybe i missed something. but my birthday and our three year anniversesary is next month. i really need to decide if i want this so call relationship to contin. CAn you please help me see what i missed along the way.

Answer 1

You missed the fact that he is a dead beat and a pot head. What more proof do you need he is 32 and living with his mom he is a moocher and a bum.

Answer 2

Any man that still lives with mommy at his age is a total loser in my book.  You need to ditch him with a quickness.

Sorry!  

Answer 3

"CAn you please help me see what i missed along the way."

What you missed is that this guy is a dead beat loser.  He's getting all the s*x he wants, right? For basically free, right?  Why should he bother with something that would require him to do some actual WORK, which is what a committment requires.

Marriage is intended to protect women from being USED, which is what is happening to you.

"Guys play at love to get s*x.  Girls play at s*x to get love."

So, he's getting what HE wants, and you are NOT getting what you want, and you never will, the way you're doing it.

Answer 4

What is it exactly that he isn't ready for?  Moving in with you, marriage, the future, leaving Mommy, what? Have you asked him why he feels that he just isn't ready to do any of it yet?  I wouldn't know what to think if I was in that situation.  You said he was 32 almost but you never gave your age.  Maybe that's a factor.  Maybe he just really isn't ready, for whatever reason, to grow up yet.  If you love him, stick by him.  But if you are putting all the effort into the relationship, I would say a time for change is coming.  

Answer 5

I can't help you with what you are missing I am still trying to figure out what I am missing by you staying with him. Is his p***s dipped in gold. Get rid of this guy. You seem to have goals and he doesn't. Why would you believe by him moving in he would say money he is living with mom he probably doesn't even pay any real bills at 32 years old this is a poor excuse of a human being not just a man.

Answer 6

wow, security guard.. great pay and excellent benefits

Answer 7

You already know the answer to this question life is too short for the nonsense he is not ready to commit to you..

Let him continue to be a bum and get on with your life..

And take a dose of High self esteem every morning

Answer 8

tell him its either you or the weed that causes him to have no ambition and still with his mom not good sign he dont want to commit to anything the weed has messed with his head he thinks he is still a teenager tell him to grow up

Answer 9

This guy is imature and spoiled by his mom. He is 32 years old, smokes pot and still lives at home and you want him to leave that ideal situation to be with you, share an apartment and the expenses that come with being responsible? He has no plans on leaving his moms house cause he has it made there. Unfortunately his mother is truly not doing him any favors by allowing him to stay at her home. This enable him from growing up and taking on responsibilities that he should have taken on years ago. This guy is not worth you waiting around for another 3 years, move on. Years down when you see that he still lives with his momma, you will be glad you did.  

Answer 10

He's a child.  It's time to move on in life and find yourself a man.  He is  32 years old and living at home with no drivers license...how telling.  If you have any intentions on having a child the clock keeps ticking and wasting your time.  You know you've waited too long...and he knows he lacks the maturity to devote himself to you, a future, or anything average 32 year olds do daily.

Answer 11

I would tell him that you want certain things out of the relationship and if hes not ready to do that then you want out. If he really loved you he would consider your thoughts and do what is right to keep the relationship going. But it sounds to me that he is satisfied with is life. Someone that doesnt want to better himself is what???? loser and will always be one. He needs to realize that his mom is not always going to be there but YOU will be. He needs to grow up and finally be a MAN!  If he doesnt take you seriously I would just move one and live your life the way you want. Maybe he just  needs a push. Good Luck!

Answer 12

if you can't deal with him leave him

Answer 13

Listen, any person who is smoking weed and telling you "when the time is right" is a very poor excuse.Please dont make the mistake of letting him move in.You will be headed for real heartbreak if you have to try to motivate him to do right by you.If he really loved you, he would be doing all he can to be with you.I hate to say it , but you are probably wasting the best part of yourself on someone who is living like a dependant child.You deserve something much better than this. You have your own place, and you sound like a pretty nice person,but youre not getting happiness from this. Why dont you move on and you will find that special someone who can stand on their own two feet?This guy is treating you poorly , if that's the answers he's giving.Love yourself, be good to you.True loving couples are two who can both function well alone, but both choose to share their lives.You deserve to be treated much better than this. All my best wishes, and it may be a good birthday gift to yourself.