I do not have any real friends, I have just realised, what about you?

Question

I have people to go to the pub with or call to chat with but no "real" friends that care or bother about anything but themselves. I wonder if this is just a sign of the times that we live in as we all have such busy lives. I just looked through my phone and realised that outside of my family and partners family, all of my contacts are just fair weather friends, what about you?

Answer 1

i have one true friend. we have been friends for over 25 years.

Answer 2

Yes my only best friends are relatives and my hubby. What use to be my best friends are too busy with their own life now. Best friends are high maintenance so I kind of like it that way for now. But someday I wouldnt mind having another female to be real tight with again.

Answer 3

I dont believe in "Friends"

"Hi-Bye Friends" yes but not a REAL friend.

Everyone of them have let me down in more than one way.

Answer 4

I have about 2 "real friends". I guess as time goes on I realize who my REAL friends are...and who isn't. I have only about two friends who are ALWAYS there when I need them, who don't judge me, and would be my friend no matter what I;m going through. All of my other friends just are too caught up in the dumb things in life , including being a bunch of phonies. Humans truely are a pathetic race....

Answer 5

I use to have a real good what i thought was a friend.But she got mad at me and now were no longer friends.Basically i am a loner and my doctor said so.I was very hurt and have had loads of problems over the loss but i was told she will never be my friend again.I was told to pick up and go and get on with my life by a family member and forget all about it so i try.Its not too easy as i have bad dreams about her sometimes still.I will  guess some people dont care and dont want to be my friend and i dont blame them i really dont allways say the right things i guess not the way im suppose to anyway.So a loner i am and it is good i have one older lady friend and she is all i need for now.

Answer 6

I can count on one hand the amount of 'real' friends I have.

The rest are like you said 'fair weather' friends.

It is definitely related to the times we live in. I read about this study which showed that people are in general lonelier & more depressed than they were two decades ago. We are living in an age of technology, so most would rather sit at their computers than go out and meet others. Instead of picking up the phone to call someone, people would rather send a quick email or text message.

Living in this capitalist society, people are more focused on making money & keeping busy in that sense so have less time for forming new friendships.

Of course, this is not true for everyone but it is a definite trend at the moment.

I think people need to start going back to the basics. Turn their computers off & go out and meet others. You should make a strong effort to make some new friends... it will make you happier in the long term.

Answer 7

Long time ago I had a "best friend" and my (then, now ex)husband cheated on me-with her. What a best friend,right?!

Before and after of course I have had "real friends", but later I realized those were just gals or something. To go out and have some fun in a certain moment.  On the other hand, I always had much better friendship with guys.Friendship and nothing more.

Friendship takes time to nourish no matter what, and we must find time to do this. Otherwise the friendship will fade away. And if you think you can catch up later, well, you are mistaken. Maybe one out of millions. One of my favorite movie is The Beaches and one of my best friend is my husband and my mom.(They are always on hand:)))

  

Answer 8

I would say no to this......this is not how it is nowadays and people can have fantastic true friends. I would say at the moment i have one maybe two who i would see as that but the majority are hello people etc, i dod sometimes look through my phone etc and wonder how many people would even care if i didnt contact again etc but thats when im having a bad day of depression. I try to look at things differently now and concentrate on future friends your bound to make.

Answer 9

uhm yes, i have felt that way but it usually occurs after a fight with my friends.  

Answer 10

I don't either, though that is a good thing. I guess I could say my co-workers I hang out with here and there, but they don't call me on my day off or if I were sick or something.

A true friend would visit you at the hospital, and or help you with troubled times.

It works out great for me because my girlfriend is the same way and we just spend our time together on my day off. I usually help people at my work or help my family.

My girlfriend is my best friend :)

For some reason all the friends I had in the past I dumped because one was way too cheap, and it was wrong for me to treat him everytime we hang out.

Answer 11

I am also friendless.. I dont think Ive ever had a friend that lasted more then a few years