I do not want my mother in law at the hospital when I give birth?

Question

The day after my husband I told my mother-in-law we were pregnant she invited his ex-girlfriend over and my mother in law plays a lot of games and is very childish. I informed my husband that the day of the birth I will be under enough stress and that day is about our baby and I do not want her at the hospital. He agreed that she should not be there. Is there anyway I can informed the hospital of this so they won't allow her near us. My husband already told her she was not to come but she is a bully and will show up and ruin our special day. What should I do???

Answer 1

ugh my mother in law is a nightmare too...we don't talk AT ALL!!!   I informed the nurses and staff about her and they wouldn't let her in...and i never put my son in the nursery so she didn't get to see him on her terms..they are on MINE!!!  Keep ur room door closed (u can do that) and people have to knock, have ur husband answer...or ur parents...but make it clear..it is part of ur birth plan! lol  Good luck!!  I hope u have a safe DRAMA-FREE delivery and recovery...lol

Answer 2

Just don't let her know when you are in labor and if all is well..go home ASAP.  With a normal healthy delivery, you can go home after 24 hours.

Answer 3

Really STRESS to your husband that he is not to call ANY family members that you are in labor until after the baby has been born. None. Zip. Zero.  Is he intelligent enough to understand that those are orders? Also, yes, when you arrive, you can tell the nurse that in no uncertain terms do you want your MIL anywhere near you, not in the waiting room, nothing. You do not want to see her.  They will start by putting a sign out that says "no visitors" and usually keeping your door closed.  My hospital doesn't even have a board with patient names on due to security.

Answer 4

just dont tell her when you are in labour.

i hear ya about the MIL's. mine is sent straight from satan.

we are having my daughter baptised this coming sunday. she went and bought a pack of the same invitations i did, posted them out to all her friends then told me allmost 2 weeks later that there was an extra 30 on the list!!! needless to say, my partner had a few choice words with her!

Nichola - Mummy to 11mos old Sophie x*x

Answer 5

Yes I would tell your nurses that you have when you go in. They are the ones who would take care of that for you. They would ask that she not go in. I don't really think you can have security take her off the property or anything though so it would probably be up to the nurses to watch who is coming to see you and ask her to leave. Just let them know when you get to the hospital what your wishes are and they will respect them. Don't tell her when you're going in either.

Answer 6

I have a horrible mother in law too and her and her husband (who is 3 yrs older than my husband) wanted to be there for the birth and I didn't want anyone there except my husband so what I did is I didn't call her till after I had my daughter.  Needless to say my mother in law was mad and only came to the hospital to visit once and it was only for 20 min but oh well.  We still have major issues now but I just ignore her for the most part.  I hope this helps.  If I would have told her I was in the hospital she would have shown up so I felt I had to keep it from her.

Answer 7

just dont tell them on the birth day, how would they know

Answer 8

You can notify the nurses that your mother-in-law is not to be allowed in your room.  This will probably keep her from the Labor and Delivery Ward altogether once the nurses are notified.  You can also make sure no one let's her know that you are in the hospital and call her after you have already left.

I ,too, have some relatives that I don't want to come and visit me and my newborn at the hospital.  This is your day, and you get to decide who is and who is not invited!