I do not want my sister to live with us?

Question

I am recently married to my husband. We live in nice, small house. 3 bedrooms. I have 7 year old step daughter Laurie. We have nice life. I am only 25.

Now my sister Ronanna is 22. She has never been married but she is mother of 2. She has daughter named Danna who is 4 and son named Justus who is 3. She is recently fired from her job and must move out of house. Now she has nowhere to go.

She moved in with my family. It is very crowded. She does not do her part. I say Ronanna you must clean up after you and your children and she will not. She says she is sick, or tired. I try telling her how I feel and she says she try tomorrow but she doesn't. Her children is very messy. They make big slobs and ruin carpet. my step daughter plays with them and she tells of them to not bring mud in home, but Danna and Justus do it anyways.

I do not know how to say to my sister she must go or help more. Can you help me?

Answer 1

you answered your own question just simply tell her either you help out or you are on your own . you didn't have to let her into your home and you are trying to start a new life of your own so she should do everything possible to make sure you life is not inconvenienced by her

Answer 2

Kick her out! Why did you ever let her move in? Call Social Services and tell her that she is leaving on September 13. She has a little over a week to figure it out. Otherwise, they can move into a homeless shelter. She must go or she is going to end your marriage for you.

Answer 3

She is taking terrible advantage of you and will continue to do so until you put your foot down so what you have to do now is tell her either she helps out with the housework and keeps her messes cleaned up or she moves out, period. If you're not firm, things will get even worse. And from what you describe, your best solution is to kick her out NOW. She can go to a shelter.

Answer 4

Give her a time limit to get a job and back on her feet and if she doesn't do it by then, kick her out. Since you are there with them and she won't clean up after them, start making the kids clean up themselves. They are old enough to know how to put things back where they got them. If they refuse, start throwing their stuff away and tell them until they start helping out, it's gone for good, then follow through. They may not like it at first but it won't take but one time of throwing out their favorite item, they will take notice that you mean business.

Answer 5

I have been in your situation, and there is no easy way to handle this. It is especially difficult because children are involved.

The truth is, your sister will stay with you, and take advantage of you and your husband, until you tell her to go. You must do this before it begins to affect your marriage. No matter how much you love your sister, you cannot let her get between you and your husband. Your marriage must be your first priority.

Give your sister a reasonable time limit to find a job. Tell her she must start making a financial contribution, or she cannot stay.

Also, take charge of the children. This is your house, and you can make the rules. When the children misbehave, correct them. You're the adult, they're the children. If your sister objects, tell her she can make the rules in her house, but in your house, you'll make the decisions.

Please be strong, and make your sister take responsibility for herself and her family. If you don't, you will all suffer the consequences.