I don't care if he cheats on me?-> WHY?

Question

I was cheated and screwed over in my last realtionship-he was my first were together 1yr 1/2.I currently found a guy that captured me know after turning numbers of others down for the pst 2yrs. I really like him. Like more then you can imagin. For some reason i just don't care what he does.Like cheat,lie,go out drinking or what ever. I just don't care.Why do i feel this way he treats me like his everything.I love that. But why its like my heart is still in the closit.The only way i can explain is "the only reason my last relationship ended was becasue i cared.So if I don't care then everything will be fine"I really don't wanna loose him. PLZ help me

Answer 1

your only identity is in the guy you are with at the time. that is why you don't care what they do. sad state you're in. Good Luck

Answer 2

plain and simple...you're crazy or retarded.

Answer 3

You need to realize that s*x and love are two different things.  Accept that and you are 90% home.

Answer 4

Some people sabotage themselves because subconsiously they feel fault for the last relationship failing.  You aren't being fair to yourself or your boyfriend.  I had been cheated on and screwed over........horribly (I'll just kindly leave it at that).........and after awhile of being by myself....I met this guy.  I wasn't particularly interested in him or in dating at all, for that matter.  But in my head, I thought ~  I've been screwed over by guys that were older, younger, jocks, preps, nerds, mama's boys..............why not have fun with this guy because obviously.........what have I got to lose.  And ten years later........we're still together.....married, two kids....!  My point is, you have to let go of the past.  Could you get hurt again.......absolutely.  But if things don't work out because you held back.......you'll always regret not giving it your best shot!!!

Answer 5

if you don't care if he cheats on you and lies to you then you're not seriously that into him.

get real.

Answer 6

you dont care because your last relationship left you with no self worth feelings.

YOu dont care what he does to you because the last guy didnt.

SO you have to find that value in yourself again

Answer 7

Be yourself and love yourself enough to deserve a man that will treat you the way you want to be treated.  If you act as if its ok for him to cheat, lie, etc. that is exactly what he will do.  If  this is the man for you, opening your feelings should pull him closer not farther away.

Answer 8

You know you care, you are just hopin gthat if you act like you don't then you won't get hurt again. Guess what? The chances are 50/50!!

Answer 9

You will soon lose these feelings and you won't like him cheating...so respect yourself and take no c**p...

Answer 10

Your past relationships have left you confused of what you want and what makes you happy. You shouldn't let him do whatever he wants with you. You're gonna be left out in the dirt if you think this way. I can't tell you to look for another guy, but I can say you might be happier in the long run. Regardless of whether he treats you like his everything, you have to realize that it's what guys do in a relationship if the girl treats him right. You have to know what's gonna make you happy in a relationship and be with the person that gives you what you know makes you happy and make sure the guy is willing to sacrifice some things to give those things that make you happy. IF he sacrifices you know he likes you that much to be with you.  

Answer 11

The only way to have a healthy relationship with anyone is to care and have respect. Not only respect for each other, but respect yourself, your body and who you are. You seem to be comparing this guy you have now with the ones in the past, and so you are treating him like the others.

Your other relationship ended because you picked the wrong guy. Plain and simple.

You say you don't want to lose him. Well, if you don't want to lose him then you have to care about him and respect him. I just don't get it how women think these days. If you don't care about what he does, then that is really not a healthy relationship at all. You are there just for the company and so is he.

Consider reading "The Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives."

Also, this guy you have now, I think he deserves someone who does care about him.  

Answer 12

either you are trying to protect yourself by pretending you don't care or you really don't like this person.

Either way move on

Answer 13

get more respect for yourself.  if you expect little of how people treat u, they will go further and further.  everyone deserves the best.

Answer 14

ask him if he is cheating on you and then ask him why. if you  don't love him then let him go.if you love him don't let him get away what it sounds like you  don't love him to care what he does.

Answer 15

You don't want to get hurt, but you are with someone that is going to hurt you, so you put up a defense I don't care.  This is pretty destructive behavior, dump this guy and find someone to care about.