I don't feel comfortable at my new school?

Question

alright so i went to a new school this year. big deal right??

so on the first day when my mom was dropping me off and sending papers in and stuff they told me to go in the cafeteria and there were so many people in there it scared me and i began to cry. i was so freaked out.

now i can tell people are trying to make me feel a little comfortable... but i think most people are ignoring me. theres another new girl whos an aquaintance but shes a little stubborn and i dont know if she wants to be my friend.

all i want to do is go back to my old school =[

when i wake up in the morning my stomach hurts because im nervous

i thought it would be easier for me because usually im okay with new places... like i went to camp for 2 weeks alone and made friends the first day and then i went across the country with my church and i was fine.

but i dont know what it is. i've tried decorating my locker with pictures and stuff but nothing seems to be making me comfortable

Answer 1

It does takes time to get comfortable with new situation/place. Especially school. Just lead your day the best you can. Remember, your first 'job' in school is to Learn.

As soon as you start making new friends, things will go alright.

Good Luck

Answer 2

Join a school club ... newspaper staff, choir, speech team, bible study...so you'll get to know people on a smaller scale and you'll be with people you have something in common with.  Good Luck...just give it some time!

Answer 3

Honey, I've been there, trust me.  I had severe social anxiety in high school, refused medication, and coped with it all on my own.

I stopped trying so hard to get people to like me.  Once I stopped trying, people were actually curious who this "new girl" was (my parents moved us to a different state when I was a junior in HS)  

Just be yourself, and if people don't take to you, then it is their loss.  High school is not the end of the world, although it seems like it is at the time.

Try joining some afterschool clubs or sports.  Get involved.

Try putting the biggest smile on your face, walking up to a stranger and saying "Hi!  I'm (your name).  I'm new here!"

You'll do fine.  I remember after the third day of school, I was crying when I got home to my mother saying "everybody hates me I want to go back to my old school and be with my old friends..."  But, sure enough, after a month of school, I started making new friends..

One more piece of advice, especially during this time in your life - keep in touch with your old friends.  They can be a huge shoulder to cry on or to laugh with when you need it.

Good luck!

Answer 4

You sound younger (traveled across the country with your church, started to cry), and a little inexperienced at this kind of thing.

try making Friends with the kids who are there. Talk to the people you admire, and just be nice. Good luck.