I don't feel like a mother?

Question

i mean maybe its only because i'm not one (i'm only 16) but i feel like i will never make a good one or 'feel like one' you know? i see mom's in parks with their kids and they look so happy and love their children so much.. i just feel like i will never be as great as them or as loving even though i do want a family in the future..

any ideas of what i'm going through? did u ever feel the same way?

Answer 1

Being 16 makes it hard to relate to those that are older and have children.  I would hope that at age 16 you would be doing other things and not have time for babies.  That is normal.   When you fall in love and the time comes for you to start a family you will be surprised how different you will be.  Maturity has  a lot to do with being a good parent and you (although you might be mature) are not mature in an adult way to start a family.  When the time comes you will see what a great mom you are going to be.  You too will be happy and love your children WHEN the time is right for you.  Don't rush growing up.   Enjoy being 16 right now and the independence it offers.   Parenting will come soon enough.

Answer 2

Sounds like an inadequacy issue, or a fear of commitment.

I don't think I would make a good mother either, but then I'm a guy.

You know what you should do... you should have a baby. Then you'd know for sure whether you ca  be like those other moms. And if you can't, you can always give it away.  

Answer 3

Don't listen to the last reply about having a child you are only 16. Why are you even concerned about this now you have 20 years to decide if you even want to have a child. And don't let the way you feel determine whether or not to have one you will be a great mom you would be amazed on how much love you have inside of you. Once you feel that child inside of you everything will change. And yes i know i have 2 girls. Please don't have one this young just to see. Wait till the time is right and you are married ok will someone that you love and loves you back and treats you right and i don't mean someone you have been with for a month and think it is time cause it is not. good luck it will work out i know

Answer 4

You'll change as you get older - I didn't think kids were "for me" but as I'm getting older now I'm feeling little by little like i'll be ready for kids soon - one day!