I don't feel like i deserve what I have...?

Question

I live a normal life...in a apartment with my mom, go to high school, and I feel like i don't deserve what i have right now...I mean, I have everything i need right now, food,clothes, shelter... Sometimes I think some kid in bad condition needs what i have right now. I think I did nothing to deserve what i have right now. Sometimes I think my mom spoils me. Is this normal?

Answer 1

Yeah I feel that way 2 sometimes.I think it's really sweet that you feel guilty and want to help.But thats's why people in America give funds to kids in Africa.You can try one of thoses pay 80 cents a day to save Africans thoses always make me feel so good :)

Answer 2

You shouldn't make such an issue of it! Be thankful that you're well cared for. You're right, plenty of kids aren't so lucky, so just be glad that you have all you need.

Answer 3

You are on the right track. Get an after school job and help mom out with the bills and you will feel more comfortable about what you have because you will be helping earn it.

Answer 4

god gives us alot of things we don't deserve because he loves us. be grateful because you never know what might happen

Answer 5

One deed a day can make the difference in a persons life....it sounds like your ready to start helping people....

Answer 6

for some people it is they are the people that can make adifference in the world maybe you can do something nice for someone every day no matter how small it is like holding the door for someone letting the man with less items going in front     of you donate some of the things you no longer use smile and speak to the old lady on the bus stop you get the point any act of kindness will make you feel better  

Answer 7

hmm... are you saying this in a grateful way? Or is this coming out because of low self-esteem? I struggled with depression for awhile and I felt like I didn't deserve all the good things I had: food, clothes, shelter, friends etc because I believed I wasn't that great of a person. If you're saying it in a grateful way that's great! If not, then you should maybe have a talk with a few close friends and find some activities or clubs you could join.

Answer 8

You are a little bit enlightened for your age.

Answer 9

You are awesome.  

Answer 10

Just because you are asking this question means you are 99% ahead of your peers.  Continue to be thankful for your mom.  Help her out as much as you can.  Don't take her for granted.  

Answer 11

I think it is because you must be a person with much empathy, that you feel this way.  It is not your fault that others are uncared for.  You should feel blessed that you have a mother who cares for and takes care of you, but everyone deserves that.  Not everyone has it though, and it is a shame.  As you go through life you will see that there is a lot of injustice out there, but we are not helpless against it.  Changing the whole world starts with the individual and an open mind.  I think you would make a great social worker someday, with how greatly you feel for others.  Well good luck and don't get down about having more than others, just be  gracious.    

Answer 12

That shows that you are a caring person. There will always be people that don't have things that you have even in the worst of times.

Be thankful...don't think that you don't deserve it.

Answer 13

It's not normal if you worry too much about it.

You could make a case that none of us deserve much of anything we have.

Don't feel guilty about what you have.  After all you didn't  have a lot to do with it anyway.  It was given to you.

If you feel bad about the disadvantaged, volunteer, give.

Answer 14

that is normal. most people go through stages like this. yhe reason i am answering your question is because i have recently been feeling the same way. I don't have a lot of things, and my sister just gave me a car but i already have one and i don't feel like i need it as much as the next person. but in all reality if i let it go my car could break down at any time. so my point is everything happens for a reason. you are feeling this way because you are a good person and it is normal. i hope my answer helps you.

Answer 15

You are being a bit hard on yourself. Food clothing and shelter are basic to your survival. Steak every night, designer label everything that you could feel  a twinge of guilt over.

You are right that some people lack some or all of the above.

You appreciate what you have and that is a good thing.

Giving back within your community may help relieve some of your anxiety. Volunteer at a shelter, animal or homeless, or abused people. Other organizations are always looking for volunteers; the Red Cross, Habitat for Humanity, your local food bank. If you are religious your house of worship will almost always have a pet project  in the community that you can help with. It feels good when you volunteer and it really makes one appreciate the little things in life that we have.  

Answer 16

It's true that there are people out there starving and don't have a home or nice things to spend time with. But keep this in mind "You can't control it all." Be grateful for what you have and instead try to give some of what you have. Giving a little money, clothes, books to charity may help with this feeling you have. Also doing voluntary work can help you appreciate more these people in need and you won't feel you don't deserve the things you have.

Answer 17

its normal to feel like that>.

because i always complain about the things that i have and then i say to myself that there some kids that would wish they had stuff like that.

some times there food that i dont like and i throw it in the garbage but i know some ppl would kill for it das why i always ask god to 4give me..hope i helped..

Answer 18

It sounds like you're a compassionate person. There is nothing wrong with having things.  Your mom has worked hard to provide for you.  This is what she want for you.  On the other hand, helping others can be very rewarding.  Consider looking in to your local volunteer network and see if there is anything you're interested in doing.  

Answer 19

this is totally normal.and it shows that your a good person.i try to feed seagulls because i feel bad for them as they have to get their own food.and no your mom is not spoiling you.moms always want best for their children.