I don't feel worthy of anyone, and I need desperate help.

Question

I just don't feel worthy of anyone who has more friends than me or has people crawling all over them. I really need help because these feelings are holding me back so much. I like this guy but he has had so many girlfriends and he's so popular and everything. We are friends and I like hanging out with him and all. But I have never even had a boyfriend before. I really need help on how to think or act. PLEASE help me. Anything you have to say would be nice.

Answer 1

Please google a short piece called Desiderata and read it - it has all the answers for both now & forever in it.

Best Wishes.

Answer 2

Who are they to make you feel so unworthy...

everyone has there insecurities....even the people who have people who have lots of friends around them...one probably being that they feel unworthy when those groups of people aren't around them!

Cheer up. God loves you...thats more than enough...

and if the guy doesn't notice you...maybe you're too good for him!

Just wait, things will fall into place... you sound very young anyways!

Answer 3

Kara we rarely see ourselves as other people see us. Sometimes  familiarity breeds contempt. Just think. Who are we more familiar with than ourselves. The person that you like and hang around with can't possibly see you the way you see you just as you can't see him the way he sees himself. Don't spend any time worrying about it. Just live in the moment.

Answer 4

First keep in mind, being surrounded with people does not make them all friends.  How many of them would be there at 2am if he called with a serious problem?  How many would still be his friend if he weren't so popular?  How many are truly concerned about his well being?  I'm guessing most of those people wouldn't qualify as friends.  As far as being worthy, your worth isn't (or shouldn't) be measured by the quantity of friends you have.  I've known people of excellent character who are great people with few real friends and I have known people as you speak of that are surrounded with so called friends that are low lifes that just use people and aren't worth much to anyone, and of course many examples in between.  Want to feel worthwhile?  Do something unselfish for someone else when you get the chance and be a good true friend to your own friends and you will be a worthwhile person without a doubt.

Answer 5

my suggestion would be to stop obsessing about this boy he does not see you in the way you deserve to be seen. do somthing to keep your mind off of him  

Answer 6

be yourself, you are better at that than anyone. and at the risk of being told i'm stupid, i will say i think guy are visual. excitement,humor,confidence,honesty. i think, they think less and may just accept things.they don't need to analyize everything, they know what they like, and that's what they want. they like to win, and respect is a huge thing for them.

also if he has had "so many girlfriends" he has apparently not found what rocks his world or couldn't hold on to it.

i'm curious, why do you like him?cause everyone else does? you mentioned other girls like him, other people like him, but what do you like about him?