I don't fit in at college...what should I do?

Question

I recently moved and started college away from my friends, but I've only got 1 friend that I hang out with all the time and we're basically going out anyway. I have like 4 other people who I know well ish, but I never see them and they don't make an effort to meet up or include me.

I feel so loney, I cant really trust my closest friend and she annoys me most of the time. What should I do? Please help.

Answer 1

watch "shes the man" u will get some ideas  

Answer 2

Try and make an effort to fit in.  There are probably many activities and clubs.  Don't expect people to go out of their way to include you when you aren't willing to put in any work.  Join a group you like.

Answer 3

Because you hang out with one person you arent meeting other people. It will take a few weeks but eventually you will meet others, the most popular I ever have been was at college.

Get to know the people in your classes.

Answer 4

Hmm Im having a similar problem. (not with school, some club thing) anyway.. I think best thing to do is just make the effort, you are the new kid after all and they're already settled in their friend groups so you need to make the effort to join in, invite them all to a trip into town or something, talk to them all at lunch (obviously dont push them or irritate them, dont scare them off!) and your bound to end up better friends.

Answer 5

How about joining some clubs or activities to meet other people.  Keep Busy and you won't feel so lonely.   This is temporary it will get better just stick it out.

Answer 6

You have the POWER  to make it happen if you really really want it.

Be happy.

Answer 7

Get a job in a pub, join a group, speak to college support staff or counsellor. Relationships take time to build up. If you're not outwardly confident then it may feel a bit awkward. Maybe you could suggest stuff and invite people along. There must be activities going on that you can join in with and meet more people.

Answer 8

Tie your shoes, wipe your nose and go out and play with the other kids.

Seriously, you get back what you put out. I am sure you have many interests and qualities that the people around you share. Just make it happen. Wake up tomorrow and look at yourself in the mirror and say out loud, "I am going to connect with someone today. I am going to engage someone in a real conversation in an effort to genuinely get to know them."

It has worked for me time and time again

Answer 9

make better friends?

Answer 10

start making small talk with people in your classes and call the people that dont make efforts and talk to them then ask them to hang out

Answer 11

I know the feeling.  Everyone seems to hang out with people a lot in school and they feel embarassed if they don't have a circle of friends who wants to invite them all the time.  It gets so that it's like a competition to see who has the most friends sometimes.  But, I found that the most important thing is to pray and draw close to the Lord and he will give you insight and lead you to the right friends who are trustworthy.  Trust the Lord with all your heart and he will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).