I don't get along with both of my parents, I need some serious advice...?

Question

I guess my real question is..what are my best options for the situation below?

I'm 18, my parents have been divorced for about eight years now..I just recently (December '07) stopped seeing my dad altogether so I live with my mom all the time now. The issue is: she treats me like ****. Just plain ****. I try my best to deal with it (aka never just flipping out on her or moving out) but it's becoming a real problem (mentally and socially)..Tries to control everything I do (in a malicious way) yet doesn't provide a d**n thing for me or even herself. I am not rude to her or violent, I simply ignore it and go on with my own life as best I can..

I'll be a full-time student commuting to college and working part-time at a local hospital this fall semester and I'm really worried this is going to be a serious distraction..

She doesn't pay for health insurance (mine or hers), rarely pays for groceries and otherwise is a lousy parent...I'm not trying to make her look bad I'm just stating the truth. I'm a good kid and all my friends agree that I need to just move out I'll be much happier....but therein lies the problem:

It costs a h**l of a lot to live (even with a roommate or two) where I'm from..and to be honest I don't think I can handle a big move to another city or something..

I just really would love help here guys. I'm a good kid who got stuck with S****y parents..but how can I cut the cord and finally move on with my OWN life?

All answers are appreciated..

Chris

Answer 1

You never said why you stopped seeing your dad.  So since we dont know maybe you should consider moving bk with him if that is an option.  If not then sit down with your mom and tell her how you feel.  Tell  her your going to college so you can have a better life.  You need her help in a few areas and ask for it.  If she refuses to change then you will have to look at the next option.  Moving out with roomates or another family member. (if there is one)  You may have to work more hours or even change jobs if the one you have isnt paying you enough to survive.  My daughter went to nursing school to be a RN, worked, and took care of her boyfriends daughter that was 3.  I lived 400 miles away so she did it  and you can too.  You have to be positive and leave the negativity behind and this may mean your mom.  By the way she is now a RN, works, married the boyfriend and has a 16 mth old.  just keep your eyes on the future.

Answer 2

Well honey I feel for you. I was like that with both my parents that's why I got married at 16 which is younger than you just to get out of the house. Seems you love your mom but she has some problems. But its great your going to college and work. Perhaps you could find a place with a couple of roomates to make bills easier on you. But I seiously think you need to get out of moms home and at least try to make it.. Maybe you can reconsile with your dad or get help from him. Just don't be afraid to try.. Good Luck......

Answer 3

Then perhaps you should cut back on your studies and work a bit more so you can make it out on your own.

Answer 4

Well you have to get away from this nutcase.  Get roommates, work, go to school, take life seriously and don't waste your two most valuable assets, your time, and your money.  You should be able to afford a place with roommates.  A lot of people do that, but the key is, you have to understand that will be busy, you won't have and shouldn't expect a lot of free time.  Talk to the financial aid people at school also and explain the situation.