I don't get turned on. Is there something wrong with me?

Question

The thing is, I've only ever been turned on maybe a handful of times in my life and that ended very quickly. I never liked mastrubating and oral s*x just feels "nice", not more. During s*x boyfriend goes on for ages (which is supposed to be good, right?). Instead of getting excited- I just get bored. I love him more than anything!

I've had another b/f before for 2 years- same story there. And I'm already 25! Most girls would have had orgasms by now. I don't even know what that's like. I went to a gynecologist, but he said everything is fine down there.

What should I do? Is anyone else like me, or am I a freak?

Answer 1

try watching movies where people have s*x or go on youtube and wacth clips it might turn u on or get u excited whatch jennifer aniston s*x scene or s*x scene from o

Answer 2

i would say that no you are not a freak but you may have a hormonal problem and sometimes medicines will do that to you especially anti-depressants

Answer 3

Do you suffer from depression at all?  Or anxiety?  Often when there is a chemical imbalance in the brain it really does a number on your s*x drive.

Or perhaps you just haven't found what turns you on yet.  Maybe you like rough s*x.  Or a different kind of s*x.  Or maybe you are turned on by the idea of s*x with women.  Or...?  You tell me!  Maybe conventional "vanilla" s*x, even with a guy you love otherwise, just isn't s**y to you.

I'd put my money on the depression, though.  That, or a too-low testosterone level.  You might want to have your hormone levels tested.

Answer 4

Something that may help is to try masturbating, even if in the past it hasn't worked so well for you. If you get to know your body when you're alone, you can really figure out what works and feels good for you. The problem might just be that you think there's something wrong with you, because sexual pleasure has a lot to do with your mindset. It doesn't mean you're a freak at all if you don't get turned on, women's s*x drives are naturally not as strong as men's.

Just remember that you are completely normal, and try to relax whether you're doing it alone or with your bf.

Answer 5

Are you getting aroused at all? Have you been sexually attracted to either of you b/f? Without both of those then what is there to get turned on about? You need to find out what feels good to you and what arouses you and don't be afraid to try it.

Some women just don't have much of a libido, no matter what their age. Talk to your gynecologist and see what he suggests.

Answer 6

You should start trying to figure out what turns you on.  Buy a vibrator and try it out...lots of women climax with a vibrator when they've never had an o****m any other way.  If you're too embarrassed to buy one, you can get one at Walmart...it's called the touch and tone massager by Conair...supposed to be for sore muscles but I've never known anyone who actually used it for that.  Try buying a book of s**y stories...maybe Penthouse letters, and see if there's anything there that gets you going.  There are some erotic movies that are made for women too...you might try watching some.  Just make sure you have some privacy to figure out what works for you.

I'm guessing you just haven't figured out how your body works yet...what's involved in getting turned on and what works for you in particular.  Once you figure out what pleases you by yourself, you'll be able to enjoy being with a partner more, because your body will know what to expect and what to enjoy.