I don't get why some parents are mean/neagtive about..?

Question

goth kids.some parents won't even let them hang out with them.I'm not but my parent are cool and some of my best friends are. I don't see the big dealcould some parent clear this up for me. :) thanks

Answer 1

I think when a lot of parents see a goth kid, they see "marilyn manson" wannabes....

Because they don't understand it, it scares them.  You know, the judging a book by it's cover.  They see drugs, depression, satin worshiping, etc etc.  

I don't agree, trust me, I had many friends in high school who were goth and incredibly intelligent, straight a students.... better kids than I was but I can see why some parents don't understand it

Answer 2

It doesn't make sense, people judge books by their covers. I was a hippie kid and parents didn't like the look of me, and I'll tell you I was into a lot less then their preppy kids.

Now that I have kids I hope I don' do that as I can remember that these "normal kids" tended to be the biggest jerks out there.

Answer 3

I'm sure some parents see the "goth" kids and assume they're doing terrible things in their free time. I agree with a few other answers here, I'm sure the preppy kids are doing far worse, they just look innocent.

Answer 4

wouldn't bother me if mine hung around with "Goth" kids as in the main Goths are quite and don't get into trouble.. They are far less bother than the local "chav" kids

Answer 5

I don't think I would let my son hang out with friends like that either. I have years before that issue comes around. Kids that dress like that are only doing that for attention. Negative attention at that. I would think that children that dress in that fashion probably suffer from some sort of emotional issues. who want that kind of baggage for a friend? I would discourage that type of behavior, plus birds of the same feater flock together. Those kids just look miserable.

Answer 6

It is because most goths have a negative way of looking at things.  Like if they get a glass of water, they will look at it and say "This is half empty" not "This is half full"  But not all goths are like that.  I am a goth (not a parent) and I am not like that.  The parents should get to know the goth before saying "No way!  You cant be friends with her/him!  She/He is goth!"  I understand if they are negative, but if they are not negative about things, they should not have a problem with goths.

Answer 7

I'm not really clear what "Goth" kids are???  My daughter is only 16 months old, but as long as her friends were respectful, polite, motivated (i.e. finishing school and working towards some sort of career), trustworthy, etc. I wouldn't really care what they looked like.  Teenagers always go through wierd phases, when I was a teenager it was the "in" thing among some kids to go for the punk look - shaved heads, mohawks, multiple piercings, wierd clothes, etc.  Some of my friends did it to some extent, but my parents still liked and accepted them.  Now they are succesful adults with children of their own.

I think like someone else stated - parents are probably overly judgmental when it comes to their children.

Answer 8

As a parent, I will tell you how I look at it.  If it's just about style or dress, that's one thing, but if it's about destructive behavior, such as occult activity, cutting (self-mutilating), drug use, or other behaviors which are sometimes associated with "goth" or other extreme fads & styles, it's another.

I am personally also against any sort of tattooing or piercing, as it conflicts with my religious beliefs.  I have attempted to pass my values about these things along to my children, and they know what is acceptable and expected behavior from them while they are under my roof.  That said, I would try to be tolerant to a point to their classmates & acquaintances with different values at least until I got to know them better and was able to make a decision based on character rather than clothes.  In other words, I would try not to judge the book by its cover, but in reality, it can be very hard to see past that extreme stuff when it's obviously done for attention.

Answer 9

well Goth kids usually have  sad, negative attitudes about life, I know this because I hung out with them for about a year in school, and I am only 20. In my case I wouldn't want my kids to hang out with kids that are so negative about life. I want my kids to have happy dispositions. We are given life so we can enjoy it and love every second of it, not so we can be sad and hate everyone and everything. I know they are just normal people, but they usually have a negative disposition. I don't think they are bad I think most of them are misguided and lost. I would never judge a person because they dress gothic but YOU put up the front that you want the world to see and that is what you show the world. If you want the world to know your a happy person I wouldn't advise wearing all black all the time and listening to depressing music. You know what the world is thinking when they see you, just as gothic people know that and they know what an average person thinks when they see them. I would never tell my kids they couldn't hang out with them but I wouldn't encourage them to hang out with only them. I would hope my kids hang out with everyone and can get along with all sorts of people.

Answer 10

I think they are negative out of fear - the goth image is portrayed so negatively and there is a belief out their that all kids who are goth are into drugs, s*x, and rock and roll in an extreme way.  There is also an element of violence that has come from media attention to some news stories surrounding kids who are goth.  All that said, I think it is parents worried that their kids will be seen in that light or get involved with the "wrong crowd."  I am a mom, and we want the best for our kids, we hope for things to go well and easy for them, and we flat out worry - a lot.  so don't think the parents hate the kids who are goth, I believe it is more a case of them hating the idea that their kids might make bad decisions or get swept up into harmful settings.  Does that help?  Hope so!  Good luck to you and all your friends.  

Answer 11

I guess what would scare me the most is the way they act. Some goth kids are very bad. All the ones I knew in school were very bad and they were a horrible influence on everybody and they hurt people and most dropped out of school. I would not let my kids be friends with goths.