I don't go to church but our families want our daughter christened what do we need to do?

Question

It's not that my husband and I don't like church it's just that the one we were married in is the only one we like. The pastor makes it interesting. The drive though is an hour away.

Answer 1

Compromise. I understand not going to church. My immediate family doesn't go to church, but my grand[parents and aunt go. The compromise we made is that we will go with them on the special holidays of the religion and celebrate with them, but we don't go every Sunday or Wednesday or anything. The compromise I think you should do is do what the family wants and get the children Christened, but do it at the church of your choice. I say to do what the family wants because I've learned (the hard way...and I'm only 19) that family is all you have to back you up through thick and thin and NEVER throw away family.

Even if you yourself aren't religious. I'm not, and I go to church on Christmas, easter, and what not and when I was young, I went to Sunday School and did my First Communion. Why did I do it? For my family. :)

Answer 2

Have her christened in the church you like.

Answer 3

Almost every church will accept you for weekly mass or baptism so my suggestion is to contact the church you like and let them know your situation and Im 100% sure they will have no problem baptising the baby.  You can also look into your local church to see if you like it but I know how you feel.  I got married in a church outside of my parish because my childhood priest was there.  The people of the church will never turn you away.  Just give them a call.  Besides, 1 hour is not that far.

Answer 4

Sounds kind of hypocritical to me.  Why have her Christened at all if you are not going to take her to church?  Might as well throw some toilet water on her head and sing a song for all the good that will do her soul.

Answer 5

you don't have to go to church weekly to have your baby christened.  As long as you and your husband have received your confirmation (and if you were married in the church, then you have), you can have your baby baptised at the parish of your choice.  If it's not too far away, contact the preist who performed your marriage and ask him how to schedule the christening.

Answer 6

do it where you want you are her parents, not your family.  Its your child, your choice, you can always wait, they can be done later on when they are adults. My grandmother had herself done when she was 60. after my grandfather died.

I am allowing my son to make his own choice, he is 2 and I dont want to force religion upon him, I went to a few churches as an child and my husband is an athiest, I feel my  son should be able to choose also and not be forced into something he may not like as an adult.  I also know that some of the teachings are important and you can teach those at home with out the church also.

Not trying to tell you to not go to church, if its such an big deal you dont have to do it.

Your family your child, your choice.  Not for the family to tell you what you have to do.

Answer 7

call the church and ask the pastor if he will baptize your child or if not can he recommend someone, simple as that

Answer 8

really the issue here is not whether you like the church or not but whether you have faith and if so then it really doesn't matter where she is christened surely?

Answer 9

well i go to the church of christ its christian but you get baptiszed when you are ready to clean your sins but if you want to baptize your daughter right know then go to catolic church

Answer 10

Hey now...I drive 45 min to church....Just becuz we are youth pastors and its a great church very family like...

i would suggest looking for a church in your area and get involved ....church is a great way for you child to learn about the bible...and my kids just love it. they look forward to it everyday we go...