I don't hate My Job... I hate the poeple I work with...

Question

Can You share your words of wisdom and please tell me how to take it easy? I'm going crazy... literally crazy... leaving is not an option, I have to work and the money I make will be cut in half is I go somewhere else, I don't wanna cry anymore. This place is all about drama, drama, gossip, HELPPPPPPPP!

Thanks.

Answer 1

I know what you are going through.  I have been at my new job since March 23 of this year and I can't stand the people I work with.  No one talks to me, I eat lunch by myself, I'm not included in anything...I feel like I just transferred to a new highschool.  I dont know what is wrong with me...I try to be nice, I try talking and its just not good enough.  I love what I do, I have great benefits here that I didnt have before, I just dont know what I can possibly do to be a better person, so I just sit her at my desk and keep to myself.  I so wish you can find an answer cuz I'll look into the same thing.

Answer 2

Many of us feel this way, you are really not the only one. Remember you made your bed and have to sleep in it.Sorry.

Answer 3

You're not alone - but that doesn't really help in a situation like this.  People who like drama want an audience and they appreciate anyone who will listen - the trick is DO NOT offer any advice or comment on the antics they talk about - just say things like "Wow, I'm sure that was bad" or "How did you feel when _____ happened?"  or "Why do you think they did that?"  Stuff like that is open-ended and you don't have to really participate in the drama - but they will start to look at you as "one of the group".  The reason you shouldn't offer advice or comments about what happened is that they will start to look at you as part of the drama.  If you just listen and ask how they feel, etc.... you're more like someone who listens when they vent, but you don't have the responsibility or duty of being part of the drama.

Good Luck, the negativity can really suck the life out of you sometimes.  It doesn't always help but when someone really gets on my nerves I try to remind myself that "they" are just people who are doing their best to make their way through life - just like me - and it helps me tolerate/feel compasion for some of the c**p.

Answer 4

Finding a job that you like with good pay is something most people only dream about.  Working with people in any situation can be difficult.  Look for ways to do your job without interacting with these people.  If that is not an option, ask about transferring to another department.  That way you could keep a job with the same company/same benefits/same pay (hopefully) and could work with a different group of people that may not be as difficult to work with.  Good luck.

Answer 5

Nothing is worth being miserable, not even a job.

Some people always say "Find a job that you love."  That may be well and dandy, but if you hate the people you work with, it doesn't matter if it's your dream job.  It will quickly turn into a nightmare.

There are two equations to a job.  The type of work, and the people you work with.  Do you like what you do?  If you don't, that's the double whammy, and I'd be dropping it like a bad habit.

However, if you do like what you do.  What of the questions I always try to ask mysellf on the those days that you feel like ripping your hair out.  "Is the grass always greener on the other side?."  It would really suck to find a new job, and then discover that the people are the same there as well.

People are mostly people, and a change in venue won't change that.  I would try to become invisible, block them out, and see what happens.  If they start gossiping about you, just tell yourself everyday. "I don't give a sh**" "

Good luck!

If it's truly a living h**l though, you have to leave.  it's not worth it.  

Answer 6

Haters are losers!