I don't have a friend, because I am an immigrant. I am a shy women 40 y.old. what whoul I do?

Question

I don't have a friend, because I am an immigrant. I am a shy women 40 y.old. what whoul I do?

Answer 1

i think, there will always be a time where we have to step out of our shell and actually talk to someone? i'm kinda shy at times myself, but i'll just be brave and try to strike up a conversation with someone.

but when you make new friends, be careful not to reveal too much about urself at one go. build the trust. and allow that person to slowly trust you too.

making new friends is not a one day success. it takes time.

i hope you will find some ppl who sincerely want to be ur friend soon. till then, don't give up. be brave and confident in urself!

God bless

Answer 2

Some suggestions for you: Find restaurants that serve the foods of your Country and talk to the people; go to the stores that sell the food and items of your country and talk to the people; Go to the church or religious group that you worship with normally and talk to people; Maybe you have a friend that is a senior who will invite you to a Senior Citizens organization and talk to those people about appropriate groups and so for you to join; sign up for free or inexpensive classes at the local Department of Adult Education and so.

The idea is to get out of the house and start meeting, greeting, smiling at and introducing yourself to people because there are people like you that need friends who are looking for someone like yourself.

Go find these people, classes, groups, clubs, sewing circles, schooling, places to walk, drink coffee, libraries and so on where people gather and are looking for other people to know.

Good luck dear, and I promise if you get busy and get out their in the world and talk to people you will find some friends.

However, be careful. Don't trust anyone blindly. Get to know them in a group so you can judge their character before you meet anyone individually in a private settings.

America has wonderful people just like you, but America also has other kinds of people, so be careful while you find things to do and people to know in places and ways that give you time to get to know them.

Answer 3

You do not have friends because you are shy.  It is a very bad idea to immigrate to another country when you are shy or have other difficulties, personality traits, etc. that interfere with your ability to adjust and adapt to another country and culture, make new friends readily, etc.  

You made a bad choice for you and for your personality and style.  You will end up very lonely and unhappy, and thus make anyone around you unhappy to have your negative vibes in the atmosphere.  You are also a prime candidate for clinical depression and major health consequences as a result of your loneliness and unhappiness.  You really would be a lot happier and more successful at home with your friends and family, familiar customs and culture.  Give it up as a bad idea and return to your own country where people and everything are more familiar and comfortable for you.  You will be glad you did what is right for you.

Answer 4

Hi Vela, Well welcome to AMERICA friend. :)

It is hard to know how YOU should meet people. I dont know anything about you. What are your likes and dislikes? Where are you from? You should repost this question with more info so that we can get a better understanding about who Vela is.

I would be your friend if you lived in San Antonio Tx. TEXAS means friend!

Answer 5

Get online, join Myspace, post some pictures. Or find a website that interests you join and chat with people in your area. You can meet guys and girls.

Answer 6

craigslist.org

Answer 7

about what ???

Answer 8

Get in touch with your Embassy and see if they have any support groups you can meet with.  This way, you can form friendships and network into meeting more people that you have in common with.  After you have confidence, then you can branch out into meeting other fellow immigrants, then regular Americans.  

Welcome to America!

071808  10:45

Answer 9

If you go back to your homeland you can make a lot of friends and you will feel more comfortable with the culture.

Answer 10

I recommend taking a few classes at a local school or something, if you wanted to go to a bar, but I'm not a big fan of that.  There are plenty of guys that would love to meet a 40 year old immigrant woman.

Answer 11

Are you a legal or an ilegal immigrant, that is the question. But if you want to be my friend, just e-mail me.

Answer 12

Your not giving enough information .Immigrant from where?  Are you married or divorced? Do you have children? I am asking these questions because it would help to know what your interest are in order to be able to give you some suggestions and ways to make friends.

Answer 13

Get out and do things that interest you, then you'll meet new friends that like to do the same things.

Answer 14

Do things that interest you and maybe you will find someone that enjoys that too.

Answer 15

put yourself in social scenes and get to know your neighbors

Answer 16

You don't have a friend because you are an immigrant?  How can that be?  Is it because of your status as an immigrant that you are shy or is it because you are naturally shy?  I wish I knew more of what you were talking about so I could respond better.

Despite the current turmoil over illegal immigration, US people are quite friendly and open towards friendship and helping others.  I'd join a reputable organization to meet people. It's a good start.

Answer 17

get friends =)

Answer 18

Do you work? If so, try making small talk with a few people at work. Start a conversation about the weather. The Weather is always a good ice breaker. If you don't work, try going to a coffee shop, or somewhere that people casually mingle to meet new people. :o)