I don't have any friends really... how to make friends?

Question

startin school soon, i am kinda a loser... don't hang out w/ really anyone...

my parents call me anti-social and i spend most of my time w/ my dog.

please no mean comments... i've hung out w/ all the cliques, but they don't seem to notice me. how can i make some friends? im really nervous for school to start

Answer 1

Don't be nervous. Buck up, sprout some self-confidence ;)

remember you're manners, and on the first day in class, turn to the kid who's sitting next to you (if they're nice ^_^) , say something like, hey, I need a place to sit at lunch, would you mind if I hung out with you? Then do this everyday with someone different until you find someone you click with. And not all of the people are going to be nice about it, and it'll take a few days before you can decide on someone. Put some pictures of your dog on your binder folder. Someone will notice and comment. Then strike up a conversation with them. There's lots of stuff to do, like at lunch, look for another person who's sitting by themselves, or looking for a place to sit, and ask them if you can sit with them.

Answer 2

just be yourself

hope i helped

Answer 3

aw the dog thing is really really sweet :)

i used to be like that, trust me, be yourself

a good way to make friends is to join some clubs or teams, that way you can have friends interested in what you are :)))

maybe have some type of a get together at your house with some people, or invite a bunch of people to the movies!

and never ever think you are a loser :)

good luck!

Answer 4

okay,well no one's perfect so u gotta realize not everyone is going to love you immediately...but try and stand out!be loud, but not obnoxious,be happy but not crazy,be confident but not cocky

Answer 5

Hold On:

Talk to everyone

Smile at everyone, except for the b****s

Try to strike up a converstaion with anybody who will listen

Act confident

~When Talking:

-Smile all the time ( well you know what I mean )

-Sound interested in what your talking about

-Call people by their names

-Good listener

-Encourage people to talk about themselves

-Make person speaking to feel important

Answer 6

Be the one to ask questions and pay attention to what people have to say. They will run to you when they need someone!! Just be nice, smile, and don't give too much of your personal information. Be fun!  

Answer 7

danielle,don't put yourself down for starters.you are not a loser.you just have difficulty making friends.maybe you try too hard or maybe you are picking the wrong people. a sure way to gain a friend is to ask them to do something for you.believe it or not it shows that person that  you trust them. also, when you start school be aware of all people.be aware of who smiles at you as you pass in the halls or who asks you to borrow a pencil or how to get somewhere. just be yourself.there are many people who may be different than others who also feel scared to make friends and they would actually be the perfect friend because they need a good friend also and would value friendship.not all clicky people make good friends.smile and be yourself.after the same people smile all the time,ask them their name and tell them yours. after a little while you will be chatting and can invite them to  your house or call them up or they can call you.you can study together.it'll happen dont worry and dont put yourself down.

Answer 8

be outgoing i have a petrty ggod amonut of friends my school goal one of them is benig outgoing

http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Outgoing

hope this helps

elizabeth

Answer 9

Try to act more optimistic about meeting new people; normally, when you get into a social group, no body likes the "anti-social" type (since it's quite the opposite).

Well for starts, try to smile when you are going to make new friends. Tell a joke or two, but also don't be annoying and mean at the same time.

And most of all, try to get into the conversation as much as possible, but if you feel that you shouldn't take part in the conversation then don't do it.

Answer 10

I feel ya babe! Hey the best way to get some friends would be find a club with common interests. Go there and really be persisitant on giving compliments and making freinds. Find some friends and find common ground. Tell them yall should all go hang out and see a movie or what ever you like to do. Exchange phone numbers and set up plans. Once you hang out out side of school you pretty much established a friendship. Ask your friends for advice and value it. Call them every once and a while to say hi. Make plans with them and be an active freind. Its tough... I know!

Answer 11

hey im a loser too! i had NO friends in school!

i kind of went with the flow of not having any.  hum. ya

Answer 12

Join a club or sport....do something that you can share the same interest with someone else. Since you like your dog, you could volunteer at your local SPCA. That would be a good way to meet people.  

Answer 13

If you're starting high school, then this is probably your best chance because there will probably be lots of people you don't know, so at the start try in find someone you think is a good person in your class, and be friendly to them. Compliment them but don't go nuts, or they will think you're weird, also don't insult them. You want to also try and get a good reputation because a bad one is not good. If you are funny then that's a good thing but lame jokes are not.

And finally, be yourself!

Answer 14

just be yourself someone is going to like you everyone has friends.

i'll be your friend

Answer 15

i used to be able to wow anyone with my charm and charisma but then all of a sudden i lost it then i got really desperate to get it again i had friends during this time it was just really hard to make new 1s these links help me get it back

i hope this helps

http://www.wikihow.com/Socialize%2C-Be-F...

http://www.wikihow.com/Create-a-Friendsh...

Answer 16

really just keep being yourself. You don't say what kind of school you are attending (college, High school, middle school) so it is a bit difficult to say how to make friends. But you are young, just be yourself, and see if you can get noticed for your intelligence or humor or just being fun to be around, it gets harder to make friends when you get older cause you don't meet as many people when you get older, so just start talking to as many people as you can and the friends will follow

Answer 17

ill be your friend ...just email me and we can keep in touch.  im startin high school and am bt friends rite now.  Cya  !  

Answer 18

find something that you are good at and follow that for instance if u r good at idk soccer you ply soccer and then you will get friends on the soccer them just follow what you can do

Answer 19

Your true friend will come to you, plus you won't seem like you're dispirit.

Answer 20

To make a friend, you have to BE a friend first.

Answer 21

Your post made me sad!  

Honey, you are not a loser--I think you just need to find what makes you..."you"!  What do you like to do for fun?  If you are hanging out with the dog (and they are the perfect companions!), maybe you'd like volunteering with an animal shelter?  

Other ways to meet people might be through a part-time job, sports, clubs.  Just be yourself--and the rest will fall into place.  Good luck!!

Answer 22

well you mite me anti-social but thats not a bad thing i used to be that way...it really depends on what grade your going in cause i mean high school is a big one and you want alot of friends cause of different things but try changing things in class dont sit all the way in the back, wear some make up dress nice but not gurly or to OMG WTF lol you know try saying to some girls i like your shirt or just start a convo look at things you mite have in commen with them you can be a dork and also be cool just be you, you should never really change EVERYTHING about you because its what makes you...you. If your new to a school ask somebody were a room is or ask someone if you can sit here if your in lunch fell me?? and its ok to spend time with your dog...but dont go crazy lol and its ok to be nervous when i start high school it was but now im in the 12th with alot of friends and all because i changed a little but most just being myself you know well if you have anymore questions on anything like what clothes to wear or shoes whatever just ask in ill tell..

Answer 23

That's the first thing you need to lose. Nervousness just clouds things, it's easier to make friends when your not nervous. So relax. If people don't like you it's not the end of the world. Just put yourself out there and people will come. I used to have like no friends when I was younger. Then I just became social. Talk a lot to people don't be afraid to voice your opinion on topics. A good sense of humor always helps.

Normally each school year I look at the people in all my classes and pick a couple people to try to become friends with (I judge this by how nice/cool/friendly they are in the first week or so of school)

Hope this helps  

Answer 24

try to talk to everyone simply go up to people maybe compliment them or comment about a class or ask about homework and soon enough people will become your friends and at the beginning of the year everyone is going to be more accepting because they are afraid of being a loner so just make an effort to talk to a lot of different people

good luck =]

Answer 25

dont try to be someone u arent. be yourself. there are other people just like you that would love to have u as a friend.try to be nice to everyone. u cant be freinds with everyone. find out what ur flaws are and try to correct them. dont get caught up in drama or go with the crowd because those people just try to be like everyone else. even if u dont think you will like a person you might end up being best friends with them. im sure you will make friends and do fine. u have to beleive that you can do it. dont be nervous because everyone worries about school starting. sounds like your a really cool person. God Bless

Answer 26

Believe it or not there are nice people in school.  Steer clear of the more 'beautiful' people - jocks and such they seem to be more superficial.  Smile and be yourself.  High school will pass by really quick and when you get out you will never see those people (unless you keep in touch) again.  You will understand when you are older that what you worried about in high school was such a waste.

Join a club or group.  Without a doubt there are going to be others there with the same worries.  I can sympathise, I was nervous every year on the first day.  Good luck!!

Answer 27

as cheesy as it sounds just be yourself, don't change to be anyones friend. be nice and friendly to everyone so you will seem approachable. be sure to participate in discussions during class and answer questions and people will assume you're outgoing.

Answer 28

its actually really hard. I had friends in highschool but there were also cliques. you have to not worry about what other people think. All the kids who create cliques are the people who wish they were someone else and envy the fake people on tv and try to fit in. Im sorry if you are lonely but you will find someone that has the same views as you and you will become great friends! I hope that helps?

Answer 29

Find something that interests you and someone else who has the same interests.Music-Record store,Kung Fu - Do Jou Talker-debate club.Things will pan out

Answer 30

Find something that interests you, see if your school has any clubs that might work with that interest. Talk to kids that sit near you in your classes (it always seems to make me new friends) just sit with random people at lunch.