I don't have many friends and i don't really mind?

Question

i'm in college and i don't have many close friends but i don't really mind because i like to be by myself at times. The thing is that before i entered college my best friend and i would do everything together and still have no drama with anybody. but now since entering college, my friend has had a complete personality change. it seems all she cares about is how she looks and who she is seen with. before she used to care about getting good grades, good career, and have values/morals that would stop her from doing some things. but now we have completely drifted apart and i don't talk to her anymore. she never asked me why and why we drifted apart. she asked me once recently thru a text message, which i thought is pretty lame. but so now she is talking bad stuff about me to the rest of the world. and so the other people i used to hang with don't really like me anymore. like yesterday i went to a party and she would say hi and give hugs to everyone who entered the place. and people there felt like they had to talk to me, like they didn't have a choice just because i was there. so i left like an hour into the party. im not a straightforward person, and so i keep like pretty much everything to myself unless asked. i hate this situation because its so awkward and i don't know what to do about it. i deleted my facebook and other things because of this.

i don't really know what my question to you all is but i just kinda felt like getting this out of my system. comments? what do you think i should do?

i know this probably sounds childish but believe i am more mature than most people my age and hate drama and the like. i guess this is why i like to be by my self more now days.

Answer 1

I would let her go about her life because she doesn't seem to take your feelings into consideration and she is bad mouthing you for no reason.It seems as if you and her have nothing in common anymore.You seem like a nice person and everyone deserves to vent sometimes.I don't think your situation sounds childish its just reality no matter how old you are.

Answer 2

I feel like i'm in the same situation as you! I am in college now but back in high school I had a couple really really close friends untill one of them who was basically the glue betweeen us got all weird and drifted away. Now that I'm in college I feel real homesick even though I didnt feel thta homesick when i first arrived. I have lots of friends around me but I don't really feel close to them or feel like I would be friends with them back home. I feel like I'm much more mature than people around me and I'm not the biggest drinker/partier even though I will go out to be social but my friends will jokingly give me c**p about it and it bothers me. Sometimes I just want to be left alone and do the things I did at home like be with my mom because we were really close and just read and go to movies but everything just seems wrong since I feel this constant pressure to be with people and go out. I'm hoping things will get better over more time and I will find my nitch more without feeling conflicted. I hope the same happens for you! Sorry If i didn't provide any answers but I just thought I would share with you since we seem to be somewhat in the same situation. Good luck!