I don't have self confident, What do I need to do?

Question

How can I build my self confident? Please help me.

Some or many people say that I'm pretty and cute but I'm chubby and not that tall, so when they said that I look good I can't appreciate it ;(

How can I believe in my self that I can stand in front of people with my self confidence? I know I'm not that pretty but even I'm not pretty and s**y, how can I carry my personality all over?

Answer 1

Aww, hun, I have a mate who's just like you. I feel for you.

You're too critical of yourself. Drown out what other people tell you, if need be. If someone thinks negatively of you, simply, you shouldn't value their opinions. If all someone can do is criticise, their point of view is worthless anyways. Believe it or not, self-perception and self confidence make a huge difference to how other people see you. How other people see you shouldn't matter anyways. As long as your body isn't an obstacle to your life, you should be proud of who you are. Heck, I don't mind saying publicly, I'm 18 stone. I get much less insulted than friends of mine who weigh like 12 stone or something. That's because it's much more fun for morons to pick on someone who's not comfortable with themself than someone who is.

My msn's at the bottom if you fancy a chat. I'm all ears. =D

Answer 2

i think you sound cute. anyone that says that they dont have self confidence like myself included we have alot to offer and are beautiful people. i know your a good person and the problem...people dont see your real beauty

Answer 3

Honey, I think I'm ugly too.

But if you think your chubby, maybe you can work out a little. You know, go ride a bike in the park, go rock climbing, something that doesn't bore you and so you stick to it.

Now, you think you're ugly? Well, sometimes if you experiment with your hair and make-up, and can make you far more confident.

So for your self confidence overall:

1) Every morning in the mirror, say to yourself 'There are worse looking people than me, and even they have boyfriends' and other inspirational words

2) When talking to people, or are in front of a crowd, say to yourself 'Omg what's the big deal? I'm just talking to some people. And, once I get going, I won't feel so nervous!'. Take a deep breath too

3) Clothes-wise if you tend to blend into the background, maybe wear some accessories that make you stand out that little bit more. Then, when you get used to it you can go for more fabulous clothes - soon you'll be the envy of all the girls in town!

Don't get so nervous about things. Heck, what's the worst that can happen? And about your looks and how you feel? Experiment with your hair and make-up, drink lots of water to clear your skin, and eat well and exercise!

I bet your beautiful X

Answer 4

Thnink I am OK ., OK and OK.

Thats all.

Answer 5

If you want to look pretty than you have a need of only & only self confidence & when you believe in yourself your confidence is automatically build up .

And one of the most thing it doesn't matter how you look buts it is a matter how you present yourself.

A good thought of  Edison  "A lake of beauty is covered by a good self nature but a lake of good self nature is not covered by good looks or beauty."

So have a good presentation & trust in your self. be cool yaar...

Answer 6

Take this free test and find out more about who you  are and what your strengths are, then you will have more self confidence.

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Answer 7

Regularly monitor your internal monologue (self talk): write down the negative ones: "I'm pretty ugly" and then the converse: "I'm fairly good looking", and next time you become aware that you are thinking the former, visualise, as vividly as possible, a big "STOP!!!" sign, and deliberately repeat 5 times, either aloud, in a big voice, if alone, or subvocally (to yourself, in your mind), the converse affirmation. Habits take about 30 - 40 repetitions to become established, with most people.        

           Cease comparing yourself unfavorably with others, using the STOP sign: "I am a unique individual, with potential, and my own set of skills". Keep your head up, and look people in the eye, or on the bridge of their nose. See self esteem/confidence, in section 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and consider volunteering, even from home, at first. It will also provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I ..(insert activity here).." Section 47 also refers. On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated: there are many options; one is sure to suit you. Practise one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you.        

           Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o at ezy-build also refer. "Even though I sometimes have low self esteem/confidence, I deeply and completely accept myself". ~~~ Read: "Lift your mood now." by John D Preston, Psy.D. 2001, New Harbinger Publications, Inc., 5674 Shattuck Avenue, Oakland. CA 94609 http://www.amazon.com/ may be worth trying for this, as it has a good section on building self esteem, using a different approach.        

          

1. Build up your self-esteem. You must take an inventory. What do you want to improve or change about the way you interact with others? Try to make only one change at a time. Always check you progress before making another change.

2. Celebrate your journey, not your destination. Learn to always feel good about where you are now, and to exude self-confidence about anywhere you might find yourself tomorrow.

3. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction. Know what you want. Think about how the people you will be meeting can help you reach those goals. Then decide how to approach each person accordingly. Apply this regularly and you will notice a difference.

4. Be proactive. Take the initiative. Be decisive. Let the other person know exactly how he or she can help you. Proactive people tend to be more successful in their career.

5. Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly important. (You'll be amazed how this works.)

6. Give a firm handshake; look the other person straight in the eye. Practice both of these. Your handshake should be just right. Not too firm and not too loose. Train yourself to notice something you like or find attractive in the person.

7. Listen! Listen! Listen! Teach yourself to develop good listening skills. Learn a way to remember the other person's name. If in doubt simply ask for the name again 2 or 3 sentences into the conversation. [ AND MINE: USE THEIR NAME FOR A WHILE, OFTEN, AT FIRST, SO IT HAS A BETTER CHANCE OF MAKING THE TRANSITION FROM SHORT TERM, TO LONG TERM MEMORY. FOR EXAMPLE: "What sort of things are you interested in, Obediah? I like archery, and train spotting, but am no longer combining the two." next: "I'm from Upper Volta, Obediah, Where are you from, originally?" READ SECTION 41, AT EZY BUILD, FOR MORE MEMORY TIPS.]

8. Visibly respond to the other person. Smile, nod agreement, and address him or her by name. Apply all you listening skills to visibly respond. The body language is the most important part of a conversation. Practice, practice, practice…

9. Pay more attention to the other person than to yourself. Are you responding to what may be going on in his or her life? Don't filter out bad news. Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Be caring.

10. Stay "in the moment." Don't mentally cut off the other person. Don't reload while he or she is speaking. What this means is that you need to focus on the other person 100% during a conversation. Anything less is considered rude. ~~~ Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are confident, and outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior.

Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to conti

Answer 8

be cool about it. you are the way you are. people should appreciate you for whatever your looks are. don't worry about the looks, but if you are kind and helpful to other people, they might like you back. just don't worry, and don't listen to other people giving you negative comments. be positive and happy about your self. stand in front of your mirror everyday and tell your self "i am so pretty" and that you don't look that bad. if you are religious, remember that God made every one how He wanted it.

Answer 9

anna nicole smith was not pretty, but what an attitude. it's all in the attitude my dear. do something different to your appearance. a make over works every time. and if you want to get a little thinner but not too much, take a little apple cider vinegar before each meal.