The daughter of my sons girlfriend is suffering. Her Mother and Grandmother really do not like her, and show it so much, she is 9. Ok she can be hard work, but, I think that is due to seeking attention, and when she gets it, she doesn't really know how to cope with it, and goes over the top. Bless her. Her brother (7) is the favourite most definitely, he goes out of his way to get her into trouble. He hits her, and kicks her, and even when she hasn't done anything wrong, and it is him that has done things, she is the one that is punished! Her Mum and Grandmother are always telling her that it would be good if she wasn't around. The other day while at our house, the broher just hit her with the bat he had, and she walked off crying, so my husband said that he didn't play games with people that hit others, so the boy started crying, so the little girl turned round and went and comforted the little boy.!!!! When my husband said about it to me, I said it was because, the girl had to stop boy crying or she would get in to trouble. Having spoken to my son about this, he said straight away practically word for word the same as I had. This week, the Grandmother was playing with one of our dogs, and when throwing a toy for dog to retrieve, I became aware that she was lining it up as though she was trying to hit the girl with it. The look on Grandmothers face was almost delight when it did actually hit the girl. Then later she threw it knowing the girl was lying down on floor other side of table, and as it fell, it landed on girls head. The delight on Grandmothers face when she realised it had landed on girls head was so obvious. She didn't say anything. Then when I asked the little girl if she was ok and commented on how it must have hurt, Grandmother said..quite sarcastically...oh sorry! Im worried that the little girl will run away or do something... she is quite intelligent! She did upset my son the other day, as he could hear her crying and she beckoned to him to go with her somewhere away from everyone, then she asked him why her Mother and Grandmother hated her so much. and why they were always so nasty to her, and blamed things on her when it was her brother had obviously done the wrong or naughty thing. My son does his best to reassure her (as we do when we can) but it is so hard to see her face and listen to her being punished and treated so badly. The Mother has arranged for someone to come in and give advice on how to cope and control the daughters naughtiness, and this chap is only told how bad and horrible she is. My husband, son and myself know it isnt her, it is the brother. I am so worried, but it is so difficult. We do try to support the girl, as and when it is right. We also, when we see the boy do nasty things to his sister, draw it to attention, and say to him about it. He is just so crafty, and hides his nastieness. He is soooo good at it. Yes she can be a little whatsit as a lot are, but, we feel she is being treated just so unfairly. We are just so upset by it and don't know how to cope, or what we should be doing. Any helpful advice would be appreciated please!
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