I don't know how to deal with moving away from home...I am really sad!?

Question

I am moving away from home to start college in five days and I am really sad! I have been in total denial and have been numb to everything I was feeling, so up until a few days ago, I wasn't sad or anything. Now I have accepted that fact that I will be leaving soon and am very aware that I have just a few more nights in my own bed and then I have to go away. I don't want to move! Right now, I live on a big farm, by the river where it's calm and serene, with lots of animals (which are my whole life by the way...always have been) and TONS of space and room to do whatever I want. In a few days though, I have to move to the big city (which I am completely terrified of) and live in a small, cramped apartment with people all around me. I can't stand even staying in the neighboring small town for more than one night, let alone a big city. My farm is completely where my heart is. I know that I have to move away, but I don't want to! I don't want to leave my house, my room, my farm, my animals, my family! I know it's just going to take time to get used to everything, but does anyone have any suggestions on how to cope with this? I am really having a hard time!

Answer 1

what a coincidence i start in 5 days too. only i will commute from my own apt. but just talk with your family about the separation process and allow yourself to look forward to visits home which will help the time pass quicker. it did me my freshman year.

Answer 2

I feel really bad for you, Im going through the same thing leaving my family to get married with my fiance.  But Im sure you will get used to it, the first few days will be hard but hopefully you will have a cool roomate to share your stories with.

Good luck sweetheart.

Answer 3

to be totally honest with you: you should stay home.  And then what?  Are you just going to be a home boy from then on?  Wouldn't you like to see how others live? wouldn't you want to explore and learn new things to bring back to the people on the farm?   As they say if if hurts it good, if it doesn't, WATCH OUT.

Answer 4

Your anxiety is understandable, as is your wariness. The city is a new environment for you, and it is only natural that having been raised on a farm you look to your future with apprehension.

The fact that you are going to college is wonderful--this will open up a bright future for you, one which you will be free to experience in the locale of your choice, be rural, urban, or perhaps even extraterrestrially (<<oops, is that a word? I don't know...).

I have lived in towns and small cities, for the most part, and also in three of the lagest cities in the US. Eye love the city--the museums, the architecture, the varied faces and voices. Creative and thoughtful people have a tendency to gather in cities. Metropolitan living allows for a broader exchange of ideas and societal custom, different cuisine, entertainment, and art. None of this is to suggest that you would be wrong to return to the farm after graduation. It is only that travel and adventure is key to human development, and you have the enviable good fortune to be able to continue your education while seeing a fresh and important mode of life.

The family and friends you leave at home will surely be with you in heart--on their visits to you and on your trips back home you will have many tales to tell.

You do not say what country you live in, but that should not matter much. All cities of the world are great repositories of history and culture, confluences of peoples and philosophies.

Learn all about your new city before you leave home--what areas should be avoided late at night, where do students like to congregate.

The last thing you need around your neck is an automobile---if you have one now, leave it on the farm! Cities are incredible places for pedestrians---take different routes around the city on your time off and you will see what I mean. No need to worry about parking and the trail of destruction ALL autos leave. Also, cities in general have superb public transportation, and this is getting better year by year, as more and more people see the folly of the automobile. Write ahead and get a transit guide to your new home. Get a map today so that your new home becomes a more understandable place, more an area of neighborhoods and landmarks and less a confusing mind matrix of unfamiliar street names.

You would do well to seek a part-time job as a dog walker or animal doctor's assistant--your love of animals is both clearly evident and very commendable.

You may graduate from college and decide that it is your desire to return to the farm. At least you will know that this is right for you, having tasted life in the city. Whatever you do, I wish you the best!  

Answer 5

Dude the city's so cool. Where the diversity of the world gathers at.

I never lived on a farm, but that's probably real cool too.

What's so terrifying about it? I don't get the denial. But you come from the farm, you probably have some real cool lingo that city people don't have. You have a niceness of loving animals, farms, and your family! You're probably gonna be really cool because farm people are a rarity in the town. They'll dig you man.

Answer 6

I am starting college soon as well. Just think this: I HAVE to do this, this is the starting of my whole life/career. This is a positive thing, remember (sometimes) change is good!