I don't know how to tell her

Question

i was about 16 when i got pregnant with this man my parents tried to split us up we got engaged and ran away we were on drugs and drink the whole time i found out i was pregnant and soon after my love of my life was tragically killed in a car accident i ran traveled back to my friends house told her what happened and she advised me to go home i did and soon after i had my baby girl since then i have met someone else had a little boy got married and i am now expecting my 3rd child i am also not on drugs and i do drink but i ain't a alcoholic but i do smoke sometimes me and my partner want my daughter to know who her dad is know she i a little older but how do i tell her please i need advise !!!!!!!!! =)

Answer 1

Tell her in terms of love and tenderness.  Make her feel special about her roots.  You might want to tell her a story, and at the end of the story, tell her that the story is actually true, but I would leave out the part about drugs and alcohol - maybe later in life, you can gently add in that chapter..................give her time to ask questions, and answer her questions with patience.

The Dad replacement was a good thing; she now has another dad to help you raise her, right, or am I detecting a note of guilt and grief?

Answer 2

BE HONEST!  Answer all her questions honestly. Let her know her dad is now an angel looking over her.

Answer 3

I think the younger the is the better. If you wait till she is 16 or 17 she may get mad and wonder why you never told her, so I do think you are doing the right thing.

The thing that is hard with children is you have to find a way to tell them so that they understand, its almost like speaking another language. Its great you want her to know who her father is. Sit down with her, tell her you need to have a grown up talk with her. Does she know about death yet and that people and things die?? that may be another opstical. You could do it like the movies and tell her that her he is "out of town" or "on vacatoin" somthing to that effect. Good luck! And I'm sorry for your loss but am very happy that you have found someone else to spend your life with =)

Answer 4

Just sit her down and tell her about her father.  Don't say anything negative about him.  Just tell her the two of you were in love and sadly he was killed.  Let her know her father would have loved her and cared for her.

Answer 5

i think u shold consider her condition first...whether she is old enough to know already or not. ur girl will be understood...coz it's not ur fault that her daddy was dead.it's an accident. u also didn't axpect it to happened

Answer 6

It about time to tell her about her father is. First tell her about him and how two were in love and happy about her coming along. Then explain to her when she was still growing inside your belly something had happened. Saying he was in a terrible car accident and he didn't survive the crash. Then tell her how sad you was when you lost her father and answer any questions she has. Do you have a picture of him or possible get one that she can see want her daddy look like.