I don't know how to tell my parents?

Question

okay, here's the deal. My mom already thinks that I'm straight, and my dad is a major anti-g*y. My mom has asked me on several occasions if I liked girls (I'm a girl) of course, I said no. Meanwhile, half my friends know I have a crush on a girl, and I always wear guy clothes, guy shirt, shorts, socks, boxers etc. I also have SUPER short hair, and when you first meet me, you think I'm a man with breast cancer or something. I don't really have big b*****s either, and my hourglass shape is thrown off by my clothes. I need to tell my mom that I'm bicurious, but I have no clue how to :S and I can't just say mom I think I like girls, because she will probably pass out. She supports g**s, but she thinks it's strange. Oh, and I'm 14.

Answer 1

Maybe you should wait until you are older/ready to move out...if you tell them now its probably going to cause a lot of problems for you. Hope all goes well.

Answer 2

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Go to the topics page and go to the sexuality section!

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I hope this helps!  

Answer 3

For starter be open and truthful with your mother. Tell her you want to sat a day where it is just the two of you to spend a day shopping and left her know how you really feel about your sexual feeling for your friend and if she really loves you and supports g**s she won't have a problem with it and she'll help you telling your father at a later date. Good Luck!

Answer 4

you explained everything except why you 'need' to tell you mom that you're bi-curious. why do you need to do that at 14? are you sleeping with a girl or a guy? are you planning to sometime soon?

just have fun and go out with people until you're sure what label you want to apply to yourself.

Answer 5

All you could tell your mom at this point is that you are immature and confused, and haven't sorted everything out yet, and don't really know who you are yet.  She already knows this, because you are 14.  So there is no need to tell her anything at this point.  As you get older you will find yourself, and once you do, you can tell her who you are if necessary.

Answer 6

Geez, you're just 14! Don't go and say something now because you may change your mind eventually about who you are and what you believe. Just "evolve" for several more years, ok? Try different things and explore different possibilities. I don't mean sexually; I just mean get out there and try all kinds of new things. Believe me, nobody knows what they're all about when they're 14. You're just getting started. And don't let anyone tell you what you're supposed to be. Just be you.  

Answer 7

I would say give it some more time before you decide to put yourself out there. If you're bi curious, you may try it and not like it, and if you already said you were, your parents will be even more confused and upset. Decide what you want first for sure, so when you tell them, you have the nuggets to stand up for yourself and don't back down from them. You are who you are, and our parents won't change overnight, and some never change. Your mom will be easier to talk to, your dad, I must say will be a hard nut to crack on that subject. http://www.outproud.org/brochure_coming_...

Check out this site on tips how to come out to your folks, and what to expect. Good luck. My parents know I am bisexual, and I'm lucky, they are so cool with it. My man is cool with it, my sister, is too. I don't have a girlfriend right now, but soon...

Answer 8

Why do you even need to tell her?