I don't know if i should do it with my boyfriend? :S

Question

if you were wondering what ' it ' was, it'll be s*x.

we've been going out for 4 months and on going.. he says it's EXTREMELY important.. cause ALL of his friends have done it. like ALL... and i'm really confused.

thing is i do love him. but i just don't know what to do, and i don't want him to dump me for not doing anything with him.. :(

Answer 1

OK well first off, dont listen to the people who say "OHHH NNNOO YYYOOOURRR TOOO YYYOUUUNNNGGG!!! wait till marriage"

Thats thier morals, but they shouldnt be pushing them on everyone else. And if there yours, have it your way.

Anyway on to the question, If you truely love your boyfirend, and you trust him, and you think your ready, have s*x. Its a natural thing and everyone does it.

BUT

If he is presseuring it onto you because his friends are having s*x. Dont. And if he wants to dump you for a stupid reason like that, you deserve someone way better.

Dont do somthing you will regret.

Just have fun and be a kid :)

(Sorry for any spelling errors)

Answer 2

oh tell him to shut up , he sounds desperate

if he wants a quick f*ck he can go hire a prostitute

having s*x is wonderful , and i find it is an important part for me in a relationship but not when the guy is a desperate virgin who cant wait to loose it.

ps no offence i dont think you love him , you lust him , diffrence  for some reasons many teen girls dont seem to see it.

Answer 3

Get rid of him and wait until marriage.

HE should be the one setting this standard, and here you have someone from the sea of all alike. Of course, this is all because of the liberalism, the plague of the modern era.

Fat chance a girl has today of finding someone with principles.

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article...

Answer 4

Oh My God! I'm sorry but i'm so sick of people saying that s*x has to be put off until marriage!

s*x isn't EXTREMELY important just because ALL his mates have done it. It is an important part of a relationship and should be an intimate time for both partners.

If you do love him, and he loves you, then the two of you should be able to wait until you're ready. Not until his mates are ready.

Honestly darl, if he breaks up with you for not having s*x with him he isn't worth it. A relationship should be based on so much more than just s*x. Wait until you feel ready, and talk to your boyfriend about this. You never know, he may be more understanding than you expect.

Hope this helps! :D

Answer 5

I'm a guy and my answer to this question is don't do anything your not ready for if i was this guy and i asked you to have s*x and you said no i would respect you more than a girl that would have s*x with me as soon as we start dating i know 4 months is a long time in a high school relationship but in the end its up to you if you want to have s*x or not i mean threres all these people who say just because you do it your going to get pregnant that'ss not true the chance of you getting pregnant goes way down if he uses a condom and even more if your on the pill and if you do decide to do it make sure he wears a condom i don't really believe in saving yourself for marage life is short you should have atleast 3 different experiences with guys before you get married so before you decide ask yourself these questions

am i old enough

am i mature enough

do i like this guy that much

those questions will help you decide if all 3 are yes do it if the third one is no dont do it hope i helped

Answer 6

Dont have s*x at any cost cause ur a gal and ur virgina really matters to prove u a charecterful gal or u will be just like the others this is wat ma mom says to me so plzz if he wanna have s*x then say no because  cant do watever ur bf's friends want u to do..Plzz dont do it and ur only 15 socommon u have to live ur life and then think abt s*x so plzz take ma advice and dont do it because if u do then u will be in trouble and then ur bf's friends wont come to help u and I think if he loves u he will respect ur decision and after having s*x wat if he dumps u the u will be left with a kid??

Just think abt that and keep away from s*x plzzz

Answer 7

I hope you realize that, if you go ahead and do this, he will be telling all his friends (and everyone else he can get to listen) every gory detail within minutes. He's fifteen and all he cares about is impressing his friends. And he'll impress them at your expense.

Let him go ahead and dump you for not doing anything. Wouldn't you prefer that to having half the world in on something so personal?

Boyfriends are replaceable. Public humiliation takes a lot longer to get over than a break-up.

Answer 8

No, you shouldn't do it with your boyfriend!

Esp. since you are not sure.

And let him dump you if he won't have it. You will feel better about yourself, trust me.

Because he'll dump you after you do it anyway and move on to other ''conquests''

Answer 9

don't do it if you don't want to. if he is going to dump you for not having s*x with him then he is not worth your time

answer mine!

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 10

dont do it. the reasons i have: a)your too young, b)your boyfriends an idiot for pressuring you by telling you its important, c) you arent sure so dont do it.

Answer 11

Coming from someone who was once 15 and pregnant....

Waiting is the only best answer I can give you...When you are young, you can be easily be persuaded to do things to make you fit in...

You should be the one that Sticks out b/c you aren't like everyone else, you are your own person and can make your own decisions.

Answer 12

15 is young and you will regret it all he wants is to do it so he can tell his friends!  Tell him if he loves you he can wait and if he says no he doesnt really love you!

Answer 13

ohh. ok well ima bout to be 15 and i personally dont think there's anything wrong with doing it at that age. BUT the reason he's doing it is completely wrong. so wat if it's important to him becuz of his frends. it SHOULD be important to him that u r rede and that u want to. and that he loves u of course. im not saying he doesnt, but he just needs to realize that he shudnt care about those kinda things. and u guys should do it wen he figures it out that he wants to cuz he loves u.  

Answer 14

He is a horny little liar!  You should not "do it" just because all his creepy little friends are!  If he is going to dump you because you wont sleep with him -- lose him!  What happens if you get pregnant -- doesnt sound like he'll stick around.  Wait until you're married, when it will really mean something.

Answer 15

Your boyfriend feel inadequate because he does not have s*x and his friends claim to. He feels he cannot relate. He wants s*x for the wrong reasons. He probably tells you he loves you and tells you that your perfect and all that sweet talk. Tell him that he needs to wait. s*x can ruin relationships more than abstinence (no s*x at all). Just wait. You seem young. Wait til your early twenties or better yet marriage.

I am assuming that you are a virgin. The girl i lost it to haunts me every day. I enjoyed it and it felt like love but it hurts when i think about her. we both agreed to break up. Every time i end up in a relationship there is a third person in the bed with us. My first. He will haunt you in your next relationships. Plus do you want to explain to your next why you didnt wait for him? what about your honeymoon? Do you really want him to be there with you and your husband? Think about it.

Do not let him convince you to do lesser things like oral s*x or the like. Its like marijuana, its a gateway drug. performing minor s*x acts evolves into more. Just cool it and give him a bottle of lotion and some kleenex and alone time on the internet.

Be true to you and love yourself. s*x can wait. And if he LOVES you he will understand. Show him what i wrote, maybe he will listen to a fellow guy. If you need to talk to someone who will not judge, e-mail me. You can even call me if you want. i just hate to see a innocent girl be pressured into something she is not sure about.

Answer 16

omg... TELL ME HOW OLD ARE YOU.

this kind of stuff should be common sense. you dont have s*x with your friends did it. if you friends jumped off the bridge, you're going to jump too?

Answer 17

If you don't know, don't do it. That's a pretty general rule, because you should be really sure before you have s*x with someone; it's a big decision! If he dumps you for not having s*x with you, he's not worth it. I know that's easy to say and not so easy to believe in, but it really is true.

Answer 18

If he's telling you that having s*x is important to him because all his friends have done it, not only is it a lame reason.. it's also a very immature justification.

Hun... If he's going to dump you just because you arent willing to have s*x with him, then he isnt worth it. I know it's hard, but if he's pressuring you into it, or using emotional blackmail (i'll dump you if we dont/ everyone else is dong it!)

Hun... if you want to do it, then do it... but if you're going to have s*x with him for a silly reason, and dont feel comfortable doing it, then please, please dont!

Answer 19

Just the fact that you are asking a bunch of random people online is answer enough that you aren't ready. If he loves you back, he shouldn't be pushing you into this and you shouldn't be getting pressured. He should wait until you're ready. Who cares about what his friends are doing? If he doesn't respect your decision, as hard as it is, end it. Because you want someone who respects you not just anyone who keeps you around for the s*x.

Answer 20

"All" of his friends have had s*x (which is doubtful), but I guarantee NONE of them is going to take care of you and your baby if you should get pregnant.

This sort of pressure to have s*x is as old as time.  It goes along with the classic line, "If you REALLY love me...."  It's also childish and selfish.  Ignore it.  Your boyfriend will survive.  And so will you.  When you're both out of high school and have jobs (with health benefits), and if he's still in the picture (which is also doubtful), then you can have s*x and make babies.

Answer 21

ok this is peer presure o ALL of my friends have done so we need to dont EVER do any thing because you pressured and if u have to to sleep with just to not get dumped hes not a true bf!

Answer 22

dont feel pressured to do it

ask him if you can wait a while if you need to

or even let him brag bout it to his mates

yous will secretly know nothing happened

tell him you want to take your relationship further mentally for now

Answer 23

Seems to me as if he feels pressured because all of his mates have done it and he hasnt. He shouldnt be like that, its a personal thing that happens when the time is right, not just because everyone else is doing it. And it also seems as if your not ready so dont let him push you into it, tell him no and if he acts like a jerk then his not worth it. Dont be pushed into it.

Answer 24

first, you deserve better because he shouldn't guilt you into it.

second, it should be important for you

Answer 25

If he wants to do it purely because everyone else has that means it doesnt mean anything to him !! >=(

its up to you bu to  me it sounds like all he wants is to be like his friends

kind of like meaningless s*x

Answer 26

Would you jump off a cliff if his friends did? 4 months isn't long. s*x isn't important at this point in a relationship. My god parents dated for 5 or 6 years before they had s*x. I don't totally know that, but they just had their first baby 2 years ago. If he really loves you, he'd wait.

Answer 27

Sweety, I'm 24, and still a virgin.  It's not a brag, a badge of pride or shame, it just IS the way I am.  My BF and I are going to be enjoying our first time together in late Sept,   My BF, my belove, is also a virging, and it isn't 'cuz we havent had any othe offers either.  If youBF really cares about you, then it won't matter to him if you want to wait.  If he dumps you because you won't let him have s*x with you, then be happy that he DOES dump you.  Better to find out now if he is using the the head on his shouolders to think with.  Finding out later could be disatrous.

Stick to your guns girl, and if any guiy pressures you into anything, it's time to show him the exit sign.

Answer 28

if you don't know if you should, then you shouldn't.

Answer 29

You sound young so I say don't have s*x.  And not ALL of his friends have had s*x (they're probably saying the same thing to their girlfriends).  You care about him and he should care enough about you to respect you and not pressure you, especially not with BS lines.  s*x is a very big deal and if you're confused about it the best thing to do is wait.  Wait until you're older and with someone who truly cares about you and how you feel.  

Answer 30

You should definatly wait. Wait till its thr right time. You sound like you are still kindof young, and I wouldnt rush into, you will know when its the right time when you don't have to wonder or have confusion of wiether or not its the right time. You especially shouldnt do it because all of his friends do it, it will be a good test on the relationship and how much he cares about you if you tell him you would like to wait, because you are not comfortable with doing it yet, and the way he reacts will tell him if you should stay with him. I know its a hard situation and you really like him, but a TRUE man will be willing to wait untill YOU are ready. If he is not willing to then its time to find someone who is, because it means he doesnt trully care about you. I wish you the best of luck!  

Answer 31

He's a loser. If he has to ask you for s*x, then he is a lousy lover and you certainly aren't ready for that. If he can't get you turned on so that you WANT IT and can't stop yourself, then it isn't time for you.

Every guy on earth will tell you whatever he needs to, in order to get in your pants. If you let him, you will have a miserable experience, and hate yourself and him for it.

I'm not one of those "wait 'till marriage" types. I'm just someone with common sense that knows how these morons think.

I know you don't want to lose him, but he isn't worth keeping if this is what he is going to do to you. Tell him you aren't ready and that's your final word.

Dump the loser now, and find someone who can turn you on and get you ready for the big step.

One more thing. You are old enough and vulnerable enough to need protection. Don't leave home without a condom in your purse or pocket. Guys conveniently "forget" or "Can't afford one"