I don't know if i should sit with these people? help!?

Question

so today was my first day in 3rd lunch (my lunch period changes all the time) and i didnt know anyone! (new school) so i went and sat down with my twin sister and her new friend and all these other people. it was kind of weird :\ i didnt know what to say or anything or if i was even welcome (btw, me and my sister don't really like each other, but we usually have the same friends), they asked me a couple of questions but otherwise didnt reeallly talk to me that much (probs cus they all know each other, but not me) what should i do next time? sit with them again? how to start a convo? i'd really like to be friends with them

help???? i don't know what to do tomorrow

Answer 1

jus start asking questions that you know they know the answers to, or talk about something that they like a lot and then gradually bring in what you like 2.

Answer 2

sit by urself, someone might come over, u can talk with them..

Answer 3

to have friends you must be a friend

Answer 4

Well you probably would not have anyone else you could sit with. Try to make a friend in the class that the lunch is determined by. But if you sit with them just try to jump in like if they are talking about horrible teachers say what you have heard about that teacher. You could always talk about cute boys or the bad/good food. Once you get in a conversation it usually keeps flowing. Just dont be too scared or overwhelming. Don't worry either this happens to EVERYONE.

Answer 5

If it were me - I'd continue to sit with them until I made some friends.  Or I'd search for people who I've exchanged at least a few sentences with in my class and sit down with them.  If that didn't work out - I'd go back to sitting with my sister and her friends.

To start a conversation - try asking people at the table questions about themselves.  A persons favorite thing to talk about is themselves.  Boring or interesting - I'd pretend to act interested in what they were saying.

Besides - it's quite lonely sitting alone in a crowded cafeteria.  Been there - done that.

Answer 6

im a twin,and me and my sister have the same friends..basically....but we like each other..lol

but anyways...try sitting there maybe 1 more time,and see how they treat you.

if not...try sitting with some new ppl,and maybe you will make some new friends

^.^

Answer 7

usually u can tell when your going to be really good friends with someone.

tomorrow try going to a different table. if it doesn't work there then maybe try again with those ppl and talk some more.

you'll find friends just don't get frusterated

good luck=]

Answer 8

um you should first work things out with your sister......you guys should be really good friends! I have 3 sisters and they are my best friends......they are the ones who will always be there for me.

As for the others...the friends....just be yourself and jump into conversations. eventually you'll fall right into place.

Answer 9

i would ask your sister if she minded you sitting with them.  you can always just sit with them and if they totally ignore you then you can change seats the next day.

Answer 10

i say you give it a few more days, and if it doesnt work out then sit somewhere else. and when you sit with them, try to sit somewhere in teh middle, otherwise there is a chance they will freeze you out. So, sit in the middle and try to spark a convo.

it'll be great :D

Answer 11

if i were in your shoes, the next day i would start asking them some questions and try to get to know them. maybe the day after that they will try to get to know you more. also, see if any of them are in some of your classes, and try to talk about that!

Answer 12

i they are speaking about something, just jump in and start talking about the topic.  If you dont know the topic, ask, that'll get them to talk to you. And if they ignore you, then find someone else, curse them or something.

Answer 13

Here's my advice, excuse me if it sucks:

You should try sitting with them tomorrow, and try to be actively involved in the conversation. just be friendly, and be yourself. If they seem to not answer you as much, that's normal if they've already known each other. They'll talk to you more as they get to know you. however, if they are openly snubbing yo, find somewhere else to sit. They don't want you there, and you don't want friends like that anyways!

Answer 14

Ask them if they have ever killed anyone, wait a few seconds and laugh, then stop suddenly and just stare at them.  Try not to blink to really keep the effect.

If they ask you if you have just tell them that you tried to consume your twin when you were in the womb, but nothing since then.

Answer 15

find a common interest... teachers, tests, anything really... try a joke or something

Answer 16

Well start up a conversation and if you feel too awkward, or unwanted then I wouldn't do it anymore, I would just find some new friends to hang out with.

Answer 17

Yes do sit with them.... that's the way to make new friends!

Ask them what classes they are taking or what they did over the summer you know questions like that

Answer 18

try asking them questions and taking an interest

or why not make some other friends that your sister doesnt hang around with

Answer 19

Sit with them and ask them questions eventually you will get on topic and talk about that