I don't know what to do..Can you offer any suggestions?

Question

Theres this guy i dont like, but always have to work with. He's a cunning, selfish and manipulative dude. In our normal department, i'm a loner, and this guy has a lot of friends, and he always ignores me (even for official group events, he'll inform everyone else but me). However, he gave me a small 'on-the-way' lift in his car 3 times in the past, and saved me like 2 minutes of walking.

Me and him were posted to a new field. Here i have a lot of friends, so i get along pretty well here. This guy is asking me to call him out when I go for lunch, dinner etc., but I don't want to.. (but i feel a bit guilty for getting a lift off him in the past, but, i cannot stand that guy)

How do I tell him he cannot come along?

Answer 1

ok, tell this to him, word for word:

You know, we have been acquaintances for awhile now, and i have realised that i just can't get along well with you. If we continue to be close with each other i know i will get more and more irritated of this relationship. It is not your fault, I just don't feel comfortable with you. Maybe if we keep our distances we can be friends someday, but not now. I'm sorry.

Answer 2

I would go with ya crazy's answer. It's the most sensible one.

By the way, t-t morris (or whatever) nobody likes criticism! You have a serious attitude problem. Ever hear of the word "humility"?

WAKE UP PEOPLE! If you're gonna answer a sincere question, offer a sincere answer.

Answer 3

hehe revenge is oh so sweet..isnt it?

but yeah its better to not keep enemies and stuff at work

could be a really bad sign

let him in on a few lunches n dinners and stuff

but keep your good friends closer

and yeah he did help you

in some way... so yeah:)

Answer 4

This is a problem with no easy solution. To handle this situation your going to need some balls. I would just go without him. If the time comes where he says something, I would tell him that I didn't feel that he included me in .....,.....,..... and so I didn't really feel like including him.

Answer 5

I believe the problem is with you. You do not like this guy though everyone else does. And he has helped numerous times in the past, and now he is asking for your help. I think you should stop thinking of yourself for a minute and put yourself in his shoes. See the situation through his eyes. I think you were just like him, when everyone liked him instead of you. You didn't feel too good about that did you. Even though he was a bit mean to you in the past, I think you should be the bigger man. In the end the relationship will work out for the better.