I don't know what to do. Does anyone have any advice?

Question

I really don't. Small story for you.

Me and my boyfriend once decided to go over to his house when nobody was home a few months ago. Bad mistake. We were caught by his sister, whom told his parents, whom lost all trust for us. (No, we did not have s*x. Making out - yes, but his sister just caught him in the bathroom and me sitting on the couch. So she didn't actually see anything, just assumed.)

His parents said that they believed we did not have s*x, but his dad took precautions and bought him condoms.

However, whenever we go out someplace and for some reason is a bit late, his parents always jump to conclusions. They ask if we had s*x in THEIR car, etc. like it was a given that we had s*x, they just wanted to know if it was in their car. They don't believe him if he says we got lost, (in which we DID. We went to a drive in, and missed almost every road on the way back so we were an HOUR late.) and so they are disgusted with him and me assuming we had s*x.

Answer 1

all i can say is that u should of never played wit there trust and none of this would be happening =[

Answer 2

It's normal for the parents to be concerned. Although it's unfair, there are times in life that you will be misjudged by others. If you have explained yourself that's about all you can do. Perhaps you can re-earn their trust with good behavior.

Answer 3

learn some self respect.

Answer 4

His parents may get a kick out of this - thinking about s*x, and thinking about what you may do together in THEIR car. Just leave them their fantasies. Be nice to them and ignore their remarks (to the extent possible). And do your own thing relating to s*x - do it when you feel ready, and not before. You sound like a smart and sensitive girl. Best of luck!

Answer 5

It sounds like you are way ahead of most people your age - at least his father gave him protection - some kid's fathers would have flipped out and forbid him to see you.  

Considering the rate of change in many youth's lives, it may only be a matter of time before their suspicions about you and him come true, so maybe just forget about it.    It's obvious that his parents are realists (at least his dad is), and they'll become accustomed to the idea with time.

As a parent, my biggest fear for my son was that he would "give his heart away", so to speak, before he was mature enough to handle the hurt that might come from a subsequent breakup.    It's one thing to break up from a platonic friendship; quite another to breakup from an intimate love relationship.

Answer 6

Wow well... you need to talk to your bf and you guys both set down and talk to them and tell them they need to trust you guys more but if it dont work im sooo sorry 4u I wish there was more I could tell you all i can say is forget about them cause you know its not true. good luck Hun

Answer 7

This is what I tell my little brother all of the time...

If you want grownups to trust you, don't give them the slightest reason not to.  If you're supposed to be back and you have to be late, call.  No matter how you call, just call.  As far as what they believe, just as long as you know you're not doing any thing, then it's all good.  Again, dont' do it just to prove them right.