I don't know what to do about my mum..?

Question

I know its long but please read it I really need some help :(

My Dad died when I was 8, im now 15 and have gone through a lot I guess, with my mums boy friends and stuff (one of them used to hit me all the time for the 2 years she was with him).

Now my mum lives as a single parent with me and my sister. I do well at school, help out wherever I can at home and then go out every now and then like teenagers do..

The problem is my mum is ALWAYS stressed out, whatever I do to help she just puts a lot of blame on me for what she can/cant do. I cant remember a day when she hasnt had a massive go at me for years. Now she has started saying things and putting in rules just because she feels like it. For example today she has decided, even though iv been out in the garden all day cutting back hedges etc for her that I cant watch tv or go on my computer from half eight tonight. (Thats around one hour in a day). She is getting worse and worse, yesterday she said she shouted at me that she is going to end up stabbing somebody if she couldnt fix this paperwork she had soon and when I told her to calm down about it she hit me. I really dont know what to do ;(

Answer 1

shes seems like she needs help tell her mabey to go see someone about this becasue its not normal to say shes gonna kill someone over such a small thing........ mabey just stay out of her way and try not to talk to her so much.....i know u dont wana do that but it might help and the fact that u have no dad doesnt help mabey spend the night at a friends/relatives house till she gets her stuff straightened out?

Answer 2

SOUNDS LIKE YOUR MOM NEEDS PROFESSIONAL HELP,,BUT THERES NOTHING U CAN DO UNTIL SHE HELPS HER SELF,I F I WERE U I WOULD DO WHAT SHE SAYS,,AND TRY TO KEEP HER CALM,,U HAVE  3YEARS  TO GO BFOR U CAN LEAVE,,AND ITS NOT REALLY ALONG TIME,,BUT I F SHE BEATS ON YOU OR YOUR SIS  OR TRYS TO STAB U U CALL THE POLICE ON HER,THEY WILL MAKE HER GET HELP,,,HOPE YOUR LIFE GETS BETTER,,,,PEACE

Answer 3

well i dont know last time my pop hit me i beat him up

my mom never has and u cant hit a girl so hmmmm

i say just leave and come back and show her what its like when ur not there to help thats what i did but i dont know if ur mom would report u as a run away or not

so hmmmm

idk

Answer 4

mum is stressed out and angry at.. something, but not you. you sound like a smart and reasonable boy, see if you can have a chat with her in a calm place, over a cup of tea. tell her how you are feeling and tell her its not your fault but fell she is taking everything out on you and its affecting you badly. hold her hand while you talk to her if she lets you. just try this. if this doesn't work, write her a letter and tell her these things. please do this.it will help

Answer 5

I agree with goldylox, but if you're going to calmly confront her, please do it in public.  She needs to know it's not ok to take her enormous amount of stress out on you, and tell her you will not be hit anymore.

If she doesn't control her anger, and if you feel you're in danger of being injured, you have to report her to someone.  Hopfully they will get her the help she needs.