I don't know what to do about my parents?

Question

i understand that my parents love me but i think think that they are way too over protective and that causes me to sneak out during the night. i know that it is very immature for me to think this way but they're ruining my high school life, i am a very responsible person and i try hard in school but they just don't recognize it. my mom is reasonable but my dad on the other had is totally over protective and psychotic i love hanging out with my friends and we have so much fun. i am afraid to ask them for anything at all even lunch money cus they are not my birth parents my birth mother died when i was 7 and my current mother (aunt) took me in when i was 12 they have not grown up with me which is why they don't see me the same way my grandparents (i've lived with them for my entire life) do. i don't know what to do because i have recently met a guy and he's leaving in 2 weeks and because i snuck out to talk to my friend (she was upset because her parents were getting divorced) i am now grounded and i don't know what to do my dad is so mad he wont even sit at the dinner table with me.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

I am a parent, and sounds to me they are overprotective.  Sneaking out was dumb.  Not much you can do until u 18.  Just grin and bear it.  Sorry couldnt be of more help.

Answer 3

it could be worse..and beside people always more protective to girls somehow tho..I hope you are not asian..cause if you are a girl and asian,your life would be like a living h**l=]

lol

just ask them nicely, What should I do to make you trust me?

Answer 4

You say you are responsible but in the same note say that you sneak out of the house. How responsible is that? By doing this you are going to get caught at some point then you are going to have some real trust issues. I would really think twice about my behavior if I were you

Answer 5

You have got to talk to them. In order to grain trust and a relationship with them.

most importantly stop sneaking out at night.

You are lucky they caught you and not a rappist, killer, abuser, or a psyopath

i understabd that you like hanging out with your friends so do it when you can at school, and other places that your parents know where you are. Also don't get pregnant if you do you can kiss these enjoyable moments with your friends in high school goodbye.

Answer 6

Sneaking out will only make them want to protect you more. Now you have a trust issue and a respect issue.  There were other ways you could have had a conversation with your friend without breaking your parents rules.  You could have asked your parents what would have been an acceptable way for you to have that conversation.  Grounding is an appropriate consequence and hopefully will teach you not to do it again.  

Your dad is mad because you disrespected him.  You should apologize to him and tell him that you understand that now you will have to build up his trust and respect again.  You may have to accept the fact that your parents will not allow you to have contact with the guy you just met while you are grounded.

Understanding that there are consequences for your actions is a very important life lesson.  It is important to think things through before you act because you may not like the consequences.  You can also find other solutions to a problem to lessen the consequences, and talking to your parents before you act would be a good idea.

I hope things go better for you in the future!  You WILL live through this and you WILL meet other boys.  Your parents will be a part of your life forever, boys will come and go.

Answer 7

Several more years, and you are able to move out.

You did not choose them did you.

Answer 8

Your Dad is mad because you have lied and snuck out to meet your friends. Both of your parents love you and want the best for you. They want to make sure you don't make mistakes as a teen that will prevent you from having a happy life. The best thing you can do is try to get back their trust. Do this:

1) Smile and be nice.

2) Apologize for sneaking out and don't do it again. Ever.

3) Clean your room

4) Ask if there is anything you can do around the house to help.

5) Ask if there is anything you can in the garage or yard to help.

6) Don't complain about anything.

7) Don't beg for things you know they can't afford to buy you.

8) When you leave with friends, always come home on or before time.

9) Forget about that guy. You will only get in more trouble at home.

10) Smile and be nice. It will be harder for them to keep you grounded if you are nice. If you are crying, complaining, yelling, etc. it will be easy to keep you grounded.

Answer 9

Oh Shiit Girl.....

.....U need 2 run!!!!!!! fire in the hall..!!

Answer 10

Well, obviously they love you, so they'll get over it...but He won't even sit at the same table because you slipped out to talk to a friend...Thats kinda scary, it sounds like some freaky movie, where a girl get adopted by crazy abusive foster parents or something....Your aunt and uncle sound kind of scary.