I don't know what to do anymore...

Question

I've been really depressed lately about the way I look. I guess I've always been kinda on the fence about my self image but lately I've realized how fat and ugly I am. I no I'm not obese but I'm still fat. when I'm depressed I eat. and when I eat I gain weight. this is just a vicious cycle and now I'm starting to revert back to my old bulimia habits and I want to start starving myself. I know all the bad things about what happens because I've been there but I just can't stand the way I look anymore. I only see the negative in myself because everyone has been telling me bad things about myself. and to make things worse I'm going to be getting braces soon. as if it wasn't enough already! I don't know what to do anymore. I'm sorry for ranting but can someone just give me some advice or tips or something.

Answer 1

Sounds to me like you're a SWAN in training.

That aside...please speak to your parent, doctor, nutrionist, or call a mental health facility. This situation is a lot more than some place like Weight Watchers or Jenny Craig can give.

And please stop comparing yourself to media-type people as they are a lot more ordinary looking than you know.I'm sure you can find more positive things about yourself than just your looks.  You know it takes a lot of work to look like Jessica Alba.

Best of luck to you---you can get in control of this.

Answer 2

I don't know you but just from this post I can tell you some positive things about you.

1. You are concerned about your health

2. You are a good communicator

3.  You are very expressive and in touch with yourself

4.  You are a very perceptive person

Sounds to me like you are also very emotional person, that is neither good or bad, just a part of you.  I think though you need to learn to control those emotions instead of them controlling you.  I would suggest an appt with your family doctor and go from there.  

Answer 3

I do not think you are fat and ugly...your self image is up to you...we all look different to other people.  You should realize that your self image is up to you.  Act like you are proud of yourself and that is how you will appear to other people.  Starving is not good, bulima is not good.  Eat well balanced meals and the weight will take care of itself...

Braces are good for your teeth and in the long run good for you.  I hope you will have the self confidence to avoid those things that are bad for you and enjoy the things that are good for you.  wishing you all the best... Don.

Answer 4

Call your local Mental Health Clinic, or your doctor, and follow their advice.