I don't know what to do.need advice??

Question

my longterm boyfriend keeps dumping me.I am quite insecure and we just sit in alot watching tv.also, i call him every 5 minutes of the day.first he took a 2month break to party and came back.now i am pregnant he has gone again. he is 28 and still lives with his parents.i am crying my eyes out and calling him.At first i thought he was cheating but he answers me every night.then i spied on him on his lunchbreak when his mobile was switched off.he was only with male colleagues. he keeps asking me how my parents are taking this and still returns my calls.i still call him alot,one minute it seems like he is coming around-next he is off again.what does this sound like???

Answer 1

obsession.  girl - let him breathe!  you're going to suffocate him.  relax a little bit.  next tiem you talk to him, maybe you could ask him out on a date.  and STOP calling him every five minutes!  i'd NEVER answer my phone if someone did that to me...let me take that back, i'd change my number.

Answer 2

Once again... Good job getting yourself knocked up by this deadbeat loser who lives with his parents.

Answer 3

Could he be answering your calls because he cares about you even though he doesnt feel romantically involved with you?

Could he care about his unborn childs mother?

You need to look into why you are feeling so insecure.  Has he given you reasons in the past to distrust him?

Does he jsut need some time and space?  Let him call you first?  

The way you describe him, he seems to care about you but just not be ready to commit.  

You are preganant and your hormones are out of whack.  Believe me this can contribute to your emotional feelings.

Please go get a good therapist to help you build your self esteem.  You need  to be strong and ready for mother hood.  Right now you are so confused and torn.  Please see someone asap.  

Answer 4

again, as i have said before, don't allow him to pull you then push you back and forth. you calling him every 5 minutes of the day and going as far as to Spy on him just shows how insecure and controlling you are. you mention hes 28 and still lives with his parents and you're pregnant with his child. both of you chose to put yourselves in this situation, you made your bed and now you have to take responsibility. what do you do? relax for the baby's sake, you have another life to think of now instead of a junky sorry excuse of a boyfriend.

Answer 5

It sounds like you're about to be a mother and you need to get a grip on reality and grow up.  The man doesn't want to be with you and you're hounding him.  Get into therapy to address your insecurity issues.  This will help you to understand why you feel so compelled to incessantly call a man who has dumped you repeatedly.  You need to focus on getting your mind healthy so you will have the emotional bandwidth to care for your child in the manner that he/she deserves.  Ditch the loser and file for child support.  Get therapy and care for your child.  

Answer 6

Seems like he don't want to be with you. Crying will just make your unborn child sick. Leave him. He seems like a dog. You could do all good by your self.

Answer 7

Sweetie, you've got to get a hold of yourself for the sake of this child.  You have MAJOR issues that need to be resolved outside of a man.  Your bf obviously isn't committed to being with you long term and is probably only staying around at this point out of obligation or guilt.  Do you really want that?  You need to learn how to control & get over your insecurity issues or you'll never be in a happy, successful r'ship.  If I were you, I would have a serious talk with the bf.  I'd say "There are plenty of signs that we're really not meant to be but now we have this baby on the way.  I don't want you to be in this r'ship out of guilt or obligation so I'm freeing you.  I'd still like you to be a part of this child's life but you aren't obligated to be a part of mine in a romantic way.  It's not fair to either of us.  We both deserve to be with people who will love & be committed to us 100% - people who encourage us to be our best and bring out the best in us.  I know  have alot of insecurity issues to work on and now is the best time to do that.  I have to work on ME before I can be useful to anyone.  I just ask that you please promise to be a part of your child's life.  And I promise not to call you anymore unless it's related to the child."

Answer 8

SOUNDS LIKE I F HE REALLY LOVED YOU HE WOULD B TRYING TO HELP YOU OUT WITH BABY THINGS ,,AND INSURING U THAT HE LOVES YOU,HE SHOULD B LIVING WITH YOU! NOT HIDING BEHIND HIS MOMS SKIRT TAILS,!!,DONT YOU SEE HE DOESNT LOVE YOU N WILL NEVER MARRY YOU,!!,DONT  WASTE ANY MORE TIME ON THIS LOOSER,,OH N THERE R WAYS HE CAN GO OUT ON YOU,,WISE UP HAVE YOUR BABY N GO FIND U A REAL MAN,,PEACE

Answer 9

It sounds like you need to get some CONFIDENCE!!

Did u ask this question before??  B/c I swore I answered something similar to this!