I don't know what to do. please help !!!!?

Question

i'm 35 and i've been married for 14 years. i love my husband, but he smokes something other than cigarettes. it's been an issue since we've met and now it's worse. it seems like all he thinks about it getting high. it takes time from us being together because he does it often. i've talked to him about it being a problem and it doesn't seem to faze him. what should i do? please give me honest answers. thankyou

Answer 1

no relation to Language section

post it in Family & Relationships  

Answer 2

He was doing this when you married him and expected him to change after marriage.  He has to want to change.  He doesn't want to.  You need to speak with a professional to help you and to decide if you need to do an intervention to get him help.  You also have to decide when you have had enough.  

Answer 3

You might have better luck getting answers if you placed your question in an appropriate category. "Languages" probably isn't the one you were looking for.  

Answer 4

its not easy to convince a crack head or a pot head to stop smoking,just be honest and tell him that its ruining the relationship..and tell him that when hes not stoned or high(which might be difficult coz ya wouldn't know if hes high or not)but ya have to tell him eventually,he would cut down or stop eventually if he has a heart and a brain to think for himself...but trust me on this its gonna take him a lil bit to get over those things..ya have to be patient on this...rehab could be another alternative though...good luck babe...

Answer 5

If you love him and you want him to change...

You're gonna have to understand that changing comes from inside. So you have to provoke a reaction on him that makes him want to change.

It's hard, and it's a slow process. 'Cause you need to find how to make him know... really know he's hurting you when he does that. And not in a aggressivee way, but showing how disappointed you are. Make him know he's hurting himself and he needs help. And make him know you will be there to him.

Hope this helps

Answer 6

Probably want to start with a group like naranon (http://nar-anon.org/index.html). Some sort of support group for friends and family of addicts would be your best bet for help and support. It would also be anonymous.  

Answer 7

tell him if he doesnt stop u will leave him, if he loves u, he will stop:]