I don't know what to do?

Question

I want to work but I can't, I have a job friday-sunday, but they called me and told me that that I can't request anymore days off. My husband expects me to take care of everything including a 4, 2, and a 1 yr old. The only baby sitter I have is my grandma and she is getting old. My 2 yr old is disabled so I have to make sure he gets to occupational and speech therapy 2 - 3 times a week. School is starting next week and I have to drop off and pick up my daughter. I looked at the school calendar and there are days at least once a month where she gets out at 1230. Tomorrow, my son is having a colonoscopy and I can't even be with him because of this stupid job! My husband says that I have to work and it's part of being a mom. I know that our budget is tight, but my husband won't step up and pick up the kids after he gets out of work if I work nights. They would spend the night at my grandma's. That leaves me with saturday and sunday, but then my kids miss out on family events and birthday parties. What do I do? Suck it up and lose sleep? I also go to school tuesday, wed, and thurs nights.

Answer 1

Your husband needds to be a MAN and a FATHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  While the easy part of having kids if fathering them, the job does NOT END THERE!!!!!!!!!!  They are his children too and he needs to do what is necessary to help with the children - this includes picking them up and taking them to scheduled appointments!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You might as well be single for all of the "help" your (pardon me) JERK husband is providing!!!!!!!!

  I am glad that you are smart enough to be in school so that you can change your situation for the better in the future.  

You need to sit down with your husband and tell him that you REALLY NEED ANY AND ALL HELP THAT HE CAN GIVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!  many times men do not realize what all is involved when it comes to running a household.  

Ask him if he might be interested in switching palces for a single day and then he will know what all if involved when it comes to running a smooth household.

The other thing that I would suggest is that one of you get "fixed"  Having such small children so close together will wear on the best of parents, espically when one of the children if handicapped!!!!!!!!!

I don't mean to offend you -only give suggestions.

Answer 2

As a man (AARP member), and a father; it's time your husband learns the difference between being a sperm donor and being a father.  It's time to man-up.  If he won't, then dump him.  If he isn't going to change, you will have the same chores with or without him.

Answer 3

quite school for now, work part time and make your husband help out.... that's ridiculous that he isn't stepping up.