I don't know what to think anymore!!?

Question

My wife is on a bussinesss trip in denver right now. last night she stayed out most of the night and was drinking hanging out with a guy and girl. if i was to do that she would ******* flip. do i have a right to be worried about what she is doing. its like she dosent care if im worried or not. i just dont understand.

Answer 1

You should try doing something constructive in the meantime that way YOU stop thinking about the worst case scenarios.

Relax what are you mad about, that maybe she's messing around? and you're not? Seriously, you shouldn't have nothing to worry about unless she's the type. If she usually doesn't mess around then chances are you are just being insecure because you're missing her a lot and it's your imagination that is running wild.  

Answer 2

Has she given you valid reasons not to trust her in the past?  If so, then your insecurity would be justified.  If not, trust her and let her have fun.  This is a time where she can escape a little and unwind.  Yeah, maybe you are right.  Maybe she would flip out if you did it.  That is beside the point.  You know what she expects of you.  So, you know she would flip out.  Because she would flip out, hopefully you wouldn't do it.  Double standards are a fact of life and present in most marriages.  Once you realize this, you will be better off.

Answer 3

When she gets home ask her if she had fun. I'm sure she did. Then say "I would like to have fun, too, sometime." Don't get insecure about it and show her that you trust her. Having trust from your mate helps you trust them. Go out and enjoy your life one night and say "I'm so glad we can trust each other now." She has no right to be a hypocrite about it.  

Answer 4

If she has seperate rules for you. I would start asking some tough questions.

Answer 5

going through the same thing with my hubby. I like to go and and have fun, and he is freakin out.

Answer 6

I would say you have to trust her until she really gives you a reason not too.  But, the double standard thing sucks to.  My husband would flip as well if I did some of things he has done.  

Answer 7

been there, done that. all you can do is try to trust her judgement. it won't be easy, as youre sitting somewhere miles away, probably thinking the worst. ask her to look at things from your perspective. good luck.

Answer 8

Ok I can assure you it's not right. Ask her calmly, "I'm not upset, but if the tables were turned, how would you feel?" and take it from there. if she flips out for you asking her that, then it's guilt that you are right.