I don't let guys touch me! IS THIS NORMAL???

Question

Im 17 and i was wondering if this is normal. there have been a few instances where a guy that i hardly know does something. for example this guy put his hand on my leg when we were in a car together and i ignored it and pretended i did not feel it. it made me kind of angry because he felt he could do that without asking. also this one guy at a camp i went to put his arm around me and i ignored it because it made me angry. who does he think he is to do that? i have only kissed a guy once and that is because it was a dare. i feel like guys should only be able to touch me or kiss me if i am going out with them and under no circumstances should they do anything else. they need to work for me and if they don't then they aren't allowed to get anything from me. however, i hear all the time girls who just hookup with guys they just meet.i don't understand this do people not have respect for their body or am i just weird?someone please tell me if there's something wrong with me?

Answer 1

politely push their hand away.if you are hard to get,they will do anything ti get it and you will have them groveling at your feet.you don't wanna be easy,they will lie enough and say they did things they didn't.make sure there's a commitment of some sort and they can be trusted.just watch it, they will act like a perfect gentleman.but they cannot play that role very long,3-6 months you should see there true colors.trust me

Answer 2

you might be surprised to find out that not as many girls as you think are having s*x.  some people like to talk big and the ones that are at 17, will have a rude awakening one day if they aren't careful or prepared.  

as for the touching, speak up.  if sounds like these are unwarranted touches by people you do not know.  avoid them, but don't ignore them.

Answer 3

I hadn't done much with a guy at 17 either.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with having boundaries that guys may not cross without permission.  If, however, they do cross those boundaries by touching you or anything else, tell them.  They may have been raised that if someone doesn't say "no" that means it's okay to continue.

Answer 4

Youre on the right path....let these guys know that you are uncomfortable with them touching you.

Answer 5

For future reference, if something makes you angry, don't ignore it.  Stop it.  Speak up.  You don't want to be a doormat your whole life, do you?

And it's perfectly normal to have boundaries and expect others to respect them.

Answer 6

You don't have to be like all the other girls. The fact that you respect yourself that much is a GOOD thing. You know that you don't need a guys approval to feel good about yourself. Don't change for anyone. Next time a guy touches you and you feel uncomfortable, tell him. Say "Since when are you my boyfriend?" This will actually make you more attractive. Good guy's don't like s***s, jerks do.

Answer 7

well if you dont feel comfortable with boys touching you then tell them, it is perfectly fine for u to feel uncomfortable but you do need to stop it. and if other girls want to go hook up with people then good for them

Answer 8

i know, same here. i dont like guys touching me so i just say stop dont touch me or i move their hand or i turn away. i dont like being touched by other guys if im not going out with them only if they wanna get to know me