I don't like foreplay?

Question

i dont like foreplay and never have! i dunno why but i hate not being in control with what hes doing down there. any advice

also

with my current bf he can kinda hurt me i dunno how to tell him without hurting his feelings

Answer 1

Tell him you want to be in control and tie him to the bed -- he'll think it's hot as h**l, and you'll be able to stop him from doing things that are too painful for you.

Depending on what it is that's hurting, investing in some lube may be worth every penny :)

Answer 2

I think you should just tell a related story and express your opinion about it by pointing out you don't like foreplay.

Answer 3

Say - I don't like foreplay and then say, you hurt me.

Answer 4

Instead of rejecting forplay as a whole, why dont you SHOW him what feels good to you? I can almost garentee he will be open to the idea and then you can learn to love it instead of missing out one one of the best parts of s*x.

Answer 5

weird...why do you put this question in g*y and L*****n section???

Answer 6

I never used to like foreplay either, hated it actually. But to have good s*x-foreplay is a must promise me. Just talk to your bf about your worries, if he's understanding and caring he'll be willing to find other things that you can both enjoy it-maybe a sensual massgage or something?.

Answer 7

Communication! Without it, you won't get what you want and he will keep making mistakes.

Now if you don't want to hurt his feelings, my suggestion would be to actually show him, and tell him, what you really want instead of blaming him for doing something wrong. Show him what you want, then you shall be pleased (hopefully).

Since this was wrongly posted in the GLBT section, I shall add this comment: men have no clue of how women works. It is much easier for two women to please each others if both already know how to please themselves, but such is not the case in a straight couple, especially younger ones. Your boyfriend will only learn what you like and how to please you if you tell him what you want. There is no way he can figure it out on his own. So it's all up to you.