I don't like my culture? ?

Question

Ok I'm a guy and I'm 14 I was born in the US and my parents are Egyptian... Ok I myself hope to be a chef or a fashion designer one day, But the Egyptian culture is all about engineering and doctoring. My parents will be very disappointed if they found out what I wanna be, they always ask but I just say I don't know and I was really hesitant in picking my classes for high school because I wanted something more art oriented (ie, music,art,photography) but I ended up getting architectural design and my dad is really pushing me into being a man, once I wanted to chemically straighten my hair and he told me real men don't do that. I'm really in touch with my feminine side and my mom gets really mad when I'm fixing my nails and using lotion and fixing my eyebrows and such. Once I didn't do very good on this test and my teacher said it was ok if me didn't do well, everyone fails every once in a while and I told my mom it was ok and people do fail tests and she said : "No, Americans say that, Us Egyptians don't say or do that, We pass every and test and task" I don't like Egyptian movies I don't like Egyptian shows and I'm not such a fan of egyptian food either or Egyptian music.Asian culture much more I really like Asian food and I think Asian girls are really cute and I like how Asians' eyes are and like like their innocent attitude and how they are really smart and they way they laugh and stuff. . Bottom line, I don't like being Egyptian! I really wish I was Asian...

Answer 1

Well one you move out you can do what you want to. Fro now, just tone it down just a little bit because you still live with some narrow minded people. My parents are the same way, and they don't approve their son liking the freakish things he likes.  

Answer 2

You are what you are ethnically and nothing is going to change that. You need to accept your Egyptian heritage just as you have accepted your feminine side. At 14, you need to do what your parents require of you. There is plenty of time for nail polish and hair relaxers when you come of age.

Answer 3

Asian culture isnt all that great either. My dads asian and my mums british. I can really see the difference between western and eastern cultures and can relate to you. As I want to be an actress and study drama and dance, whereas my dad would like me to become a doctor or somehow follow in his footsteps. This is how I took control of my life;

I had to sit him down and simply tell him. Yes; he was upset. It took a while for me to reassure him I was sure this is what I wanted to do. But it's my life. That's it. They have to accept that. This may sound harsh, but if they don't, then you shouldnt be living so close to them. I'm not sure of your age, but, if you are old enough to live on your own, I urge you to find the money to do so.

Also, it's harsh to disown your culture altogether. Your parents sound strict and thiv may put you off it. But I think you need to discover true egyptian culture on your own. You may come to like it. And, if you dont, then, when you're old enough, you could consider learning chinese/Indian/Arabic (Where ever you like in Asia) and moving to that country.

Best of luck. =)

xoxo

Answer 4

lol, awesome rant.

anyway, just deal with it for a few more years till ur out on ur own, then do what u want. persue ur intrest outside of school or maybe get a schedule change now and deal withthe greif you'll get. if they're ur parents they should love and accept you reguardless of what u want in life.

it's your life.

Answer 5

Americans are a mish mash of many different races, but cuturally different from their race.

If you don't like the culture from which you were born, you have a choice to live a different lifestyle that suits you.

Answer 6

Years ago, I knew of a young g*y man in a similar situation as yours.  He wanted to be a classic pianist, but his parents wanted him to be a doctor.  He made a deal with them: "I will be a doctor, but I want to keep up with my music lessons as well.  Is it a deal?"

His parents agreed and so he went to medical school and graduated as a doctor.

Immediately upon graduation he informed his parents, "You got what you wanted.  You now have a doctor for a son.  Now, I'm going to do what I want and be a pianist."

And he did.