I don't like small talk. Does this mean I'm shy?

Question

When people do small talk, I tend to not participate so I look like the quiet guy when really I just don't think I need to say anything. But it feels awkward so sometimes I want to say something but can't think of anything.

Answer 1

I'm the same way, I HATE mindless small talk.  And I don't think it means your shy, I think it just means you're not fake and you don't like bulls#!t... at least that's the way I like to think of myself.  =)

Answer 2

hahaha, i have the same problem; but the best thing is to relax and when you think of something funny just go for it and say it. friends are with you through thick and thin

Answer 3

Your not shy just because you don't believe in small talk.  I think if you really want to get to know people, whether its that girl you've liked for a while or such you should just tell her you hate small talk.  Be straightforward about it, that way you can suggest activities to do instead like play badminton, video games...

Although in certain social situations small talk is crucial because, although we all hate to admit it, it really does help build a friendship or an acquaintance.  It doesn't make you reserved though...I hate small talk, I find it all awkward and people tend to think I'm too formal if I don't start making small talk.  I know exactly what you mean!