I don't relate well to teens my own age. Why?

Question

I don't relate well to teens my own age. I have friends and I'm member's of clubs and I'm on the cheer squad but, I have never really clicked with teens my own age. I tend to use higher vocabulary and I'm never interested in talking about people all of the time and I think some of the things that people in my grade fine SO IMPORTANT are just stupid. I get upset because sometimes I'm so out of the bubble of my friends. I don't spend all of my time texting everyone else and I don't go out every night and get drunk. I do love to have fun and go to parties but maybe only once a weekend. Everyone at school likes me and they think that I'm really funny and fun to be around but its like I'm not SUPER close to anyone. And don't even get me started about guys. They don't understand me AT ALL. It just sucks sometimes that I can talk to my friend's parents longer than I can talk to them. This year is the first year I have found a group of friends that actually ask me to do stuff, and it still isn't the same. I'm like on the fence. They don't just assume I'm in on all of their activities all of the time. :( Why?!

Answer 1

I'm 14 and I hate chilling with kids my own age. Mainly b/c they can't have an intelligent conversation to safe their  lives. So I chill with 16-19 year olds. They're smart and funny and we click so well. I think it's truly b/c girls mature faster than boys. You just have to find a group of people that you feel comfortable being around  

Answer 2

your mature. be grateful. high school is filled with drama. just continue your studies and go to college and you'll have a blast

Answer 3

I feel the same way. People have a hard time understanding you because you're probably more mature than them, and I'm guessing that when you asked this question you already knew the answer but was just looking for confirmation of a theory. I could be wrong.

You've probably experienced more than other people your age have or were raised a different way than many other people, which is probably why you feel the way you do.

You probably feel like you don't fit in as much as everyone else because they're just not as interested as you are in adult conversations and ideas they wouldn't understand. I've been there, and I'm still living that way.

If you feel like you need more mature people to talk to, try finding people who are mature and will be able to carry an adult conversation. I think you know as well as I do (judging by your maturity level) that drinking, nonstop partying, and constant swearing is the exact opposite of mature, and you don't sound like you want anything to do with it, which is wise.

If you need any more advice, just send me a message. I'm not older than you by a lot (and I may be younger than you) because I'm a teenager, too, so it will be different for a change to talk to someone who can relate (and you're actually the first person I've heard of who has the exact same problems as I do relating to people our age for the same reasons).

Answer 4

Well you have obviously matured faster than others your age.  There is nothing wrong with that.  Maybe try finding some older friends?  Still keep the friends you have and do things with them, but there are older people out there that don't mind being friends with teenagers.  I am 27 and I sometimes find teens I can talk to more easily than people my own age.

Answer 5

I can relate to that but I don't really get along with my parents either. I kinda started avoiding people its got to the point where most of my friend are just annoying and really have no purpose if you know what I mean. I think you are just more mature then the people you surround yourself with.

Answer 6

your just maturing faster then your friends. just let them know how you feel.

i understand i went through the same thing when i was in high school