I don't think I want to attend my own wedding. Need help making myself go!?

Question

I am getting married on saturday and I am freaking out!

I'm actually starting to wish I wasn't having a wedding. I DO want to get married to my fiance because I love him, but I am just freaking out about this whole wedding thing and being the center of attention for all these people.

For some reason I am convinced that they are going to think I am not pretty enough to get married to my fiance. He's a marine and is super duper buff and I'm not in the best of shape (I'm not really overweight, maybe just slightly, but I'm definitely not in great shape, and not really the shape I wanted to be in when I got married).

So anyways, I'm freaking out about going to my own wedding, but I know that i HAVE to go (since I DO want to get married and my parents shelled out money and stuff). I'm scared my hair will look horrible (since it has the uncanny ability to ALWAYS look bad for special events), or that my dress will make me look too wide, or that people will look and me and think "geez, what happened to her? Thats not how I remember her looking".

Is this panic normal?

Need encouraging words to make it through my own wedding please!

Answer 1

I was freaking out before my wedding thinking that I wouldn't look pretty. I don't think I'm a really pretty person, especially in photos. On the day though, I got to see some of the pics the photographer was taking (on the screen in his digital camera) and I was thinking "wow! I really look like a real bride, I am pretty!" And even my hair looked nice. I had decided on one hairstyle, then changed a week and a half out and it looked great. You will be a gorgeous bride, and everyone will think you look beautiful. Good luck and enjoy your day xo

Answer 2

you either do or don't want to marry, if u do like u say u do then I don't think u should worry about the fact that u are fat and everyone there will be thinking u are batting above your average so to speak. If ur fiance likes bigger girls then go for it. I have seen ample women get married with c**p hairdos before and they had a great time !  don't worry that everyone thinks u look like $hit, as long as u enjoy your very special day that's all that matters..

Answer 3

everyone said it pretty well.  Just relax, take a deep breath and enjoy your day.  

No one is going to look down on you.  They are family and friends and wouldn't be there if they didn't care about you and your happiness.

You are surrounded by your friends!!!  CHILL!  :)

And no, I don't think panic to the extent you are describing is exactly normal, but then it doesn't really bother me to be the center of attention.  I guess if you are a more shy person, it would bother you more.  

Bottom line... Relax honey--- we really want you to enjoy your day most of all!

Answer 4

Change your attitude and focus on the positives of this wedding.

You think about negatives and talk negatively that is all you are going to get. Period.

Forget what other people will supposedly say about you. This is supposed to be YOUR day and yes you are the center of attention so take advantage of it! It is all about you and your fiance and no one else. Your Happy day.

So focus on what you want to happen that is good.

Answer 5

It's normal, I went through this a couple of weeks back (think I had my jitters early).

Don't worry about how others will see you. Keep in mind your fiance obviously thinks your beautiful, special and the one for him :)

He's getting married to you, not anyone else! He's chosen the biggest commitment to you.

You will look gorgeous, your hair will look lovely, your dress will be fantastic, and you will have the best day of your life!

Good luck x

Answer 6

what you are going through right now is completely normal, a lot of people freak out before their own weddings.

don't think too much about other people, just remember you are beautiful in all possible ways and you are in love, you will be the most beautiful woman in the whole world on your wedding day!!

Answer 7

Congratulations! You are a normal bride. And I would bet that you can't see how beautiful of a person you are, but your fiance sees it or he wouldn't be marrying you. Your family & friends see it or they wouldn't be excited for you right now.

Buy some pins to help control your hair if you feel you need to. Let it be "rumpled" if it decides to be. People aren't as critical as you are imagining. They will see you walk down that aisle, and it will be a breathtaking moment for your family and friends.

Will they ask if you are perfect? I doubt it because you need to take a good look at each of them. I bet you won't find a perfect one in the group. We are all flawed in some way or the other.

Brides have this fairy tale vision of how things should be, and things never seem to live up to that vision. That's because we're human and not characters in a fairy tale book. But the characters in the book don't actually get to spend the rest of their lives with the man of their dreams. They end with the book closes. You, on the other hand, actually get to live with this wonderful guy who love dearly.

So, try to get some rest this week. Enjoy the excitement, breathe deeply and know that this weekend will be the beginning of the life you have dreamed of. Best wishes for a wonderful wedding~

Answer 8

wedding jitters:

stand tall and proud

and smile

Answer 9

this is completely normal

take a deep breath and just remember your in love <3

Answer 10

The panic is completely normal. I was worried about how I would look for my wedding too.

Just remember that everyone is there to celebrate your love, not to judge your looks. Get a great hair stylist and try out a few hair styles before the D-day and decide on one that looks great. Get the stylist's help on the kind of conditioner to use etc.

I am sure you would look gorgeous and would have a fantastic wedding. Remember that you love your fiance and want to get married. And that is the most important thing. Enjoy your special day! And congrats on getting married!  

Answer 11

you dont have to think too much about it....in reality u will not give any attention to whoever will be there during ur marriage (its normal as ur there to get married so ur focused on ur fiancee&priest - or whoever will make ur marriage come true)...then when its done u will continue with ur reception...u will b a bit busy with the photographer taking u photos...congrats :)

Answer 12

Haha I love hearing this. It may sound weird, but it's good you are scared and nervous. It happens to everyone, you love your fiance so marry him lol! and your family and friends will be there to so dont worry.

Congratulations.

Answer 13

just keep telling yourself of all the women in the world HE PICKED YOU.

Answer 14

I doubt that you are nearly as bad looking as you think you are. In many cases, worry about ones physical appearance is just a manifestation of something deeper. Is there something else that you dont feel "good enough" about-- career? Talents? etc.

If this could be you, my advice is keep things in perspective. When one gets married, not everything is perfect. Thats why we have the rest of our lives to work on being a better partner, friend, professional, or what have you!

As for your hair and body, I cannot change your self-image for you. Only you can do that. Once you make up your mind that you are beautiful, you will become beautiful. Nurture this feeling just like you would a small plant: go for manicures, eat healthy, etc. Also, tell your hair stylist what your hair usually does, and they will fix it!  

Answer 15

It's Totally Normal. The Stress From Planning & Organizing It All Has Just Gotten To You.

Just Think About Everything Good & Fun You Ever Wanted For Your Wedding, Then Imagine You'll Be Having That This Weekend.

Your Nerves May Just Be Getting The Better Of You Right Now. But I'm Sure When You See Your Soon To Be Husband At The End Of The Aisle All That Will Be Gone.

=)

Good Luck.

Answer 16

Hey Loren,

I know how you feel and I still have 7 weeks to go. I think one of the best things you can do for yourself right now is to either turn your phon off or screen your calls. Only take the calls you have to take until the big day. Saves stress. Take time out, have a relaxing bubble bath, read a book, forget about the finer details and just remember why you are getting married. Everyone needs quality ''me'' time and you need it now more than ever. Go get your nails done and just try to chill out. Get as much sleep as you can. You are going to look beautiful, don't put yourself down. As soon as you put that dress on, you are going to realise just how gorgeous you really are. I know its probably easier said than done but I hope you get that you time. Best of luck sweetie, have an amazing wedding and marriage x