I don't think my mom loves me anymore?

Question

She acts like I'm not there, and ignores me when I am trying to talk to her. Recenty when we went shopping for school supplies she completely ignored me. She acts ashamed of me when she has friends over, and we've been getting into a lot of fights lately. A few months ago when I told her I'm L*****n she was fine with it, but just the other day she told me 2 leave the house once I turn 18. And last night, she made me make my own dinner, while she cooked for herself and my brother What should I do?

Answer 1

my wife and I both said if one of our children came to us and said they were g*y we could handle it rather than loose them and their love,  maybe your mum thought she could handle it and now is having trouble excepting it, you must try and talk to her about it you have done the grown up thing by telling her now be even more sensitive to her feelings now and put her mind at rest that you are happy with your sexuality and will have save s*x, mums and dads never expect their children to be ( the ones)its always some one Else's children so be gentle and kind when you talk to her about it she must be in some distress  over your future    

Answer 2

u didnt grow up to the adult she wanted. Its alright once you get through your post-adolescent, violent, know it all stage, you'll realize what circumstances made things the way they are.

Answer 3

Im really sorry to hear that.

But maybe you should write her a letter about how you feel and tell her to read it and just leave that

works with my mom.

Answer 4

Every friend (although they've all been guys)  that I have that has come out to their parents has told me that they all initially had negative reactions to the news, especially the parent of the same s*x.  She still loves you, she's just angry with herself thinking that it's her fault and that she did something wrong. She'll come around eventually, but it may take some time. This is something she's gonna have to deal with on her own, not you or anyone else can make her deal with it, and it won't be until she's ready to do it.

In the meantime, I would do whatever she asks you to do or tells you to do around the house without question. Just pay careful attention to the things you might say or do around the house that might 'remind' her. All you can do is show her that you're still the same daughter she's always had and loved and that you're still a good kid.  

Answer 5

You do not mention what you are fighting about.  Are you trying to convince your mom that you are acceptable and control her feelings about you?  Is she just out of the blue lashing out?  If your mom is reacting differently she might be going through grief and not admitting it.  A study by Elizabeth Kubler Ross regarding loss and grief on death and dying I have found seems to describe how myself and people I know deal with many issues. The phases are 1.Denial and Isolation 2. Anger 3.Bargaining 4. Depression 5. Acceptance.  If she is acting differently it might be that her actions are about her and how shes dealing with things, not about you at all.  It might not be that she doesn't love you but that she is processing emotions and taking them out on you (which is not the a way that has been recommended to me) rather than working through them with a friend.  It does not make it any easier to be treated like that.  You could suggest you all go to counseling to work through the difficulties you are having but  she might be  unwilling .  Also if you are spending a lot of energy trying to manipulate her to understand you the pressure might lessen if you let go and decide to yourself that you cannot change how she sees things and in your mind give her permission to see them differently.  If you can let go of trying to make her see things your way or understand you it might take a lot of the pressure off both of you right now.  But I don't know what you are fighting about so I am just guessing.  I am sorry you are being treated that way by your mom and as an underaged  child you may seek help from agencies in your area such as the school counselor, family services, if only to be directed to resources.  I wish you the world of serenity.

Answer 6

  Well this is completely out of the ordinary.  I'm not sure what else is going on in your mom's life.  I didn't see you mention anything about your father so I am assuming that your mother isn't attached to a man.  Your mom may be in a state of depression for a number of reasons but she will come out of it.  I can assure you that she does love you and wouldn't know what to do without you.  I'm not sure how close you are to 18 but your mom will change her mind before then.  

  I think you should just stay out of her way and try not to do anything to upset her.  Try not to argue with her and let things smooth out.  She will get passed whatever ails her soon enough.  In the mean time, sit back and enjoy life.  Good luck.