I don't understand him?

Question

Why is he doing that?

my Bf teases me all the time.It is ok but some times i don't like the things he says.If we talk about somebody (a man),he will say things like ''this guy looks good,do you want to be with him'' .yesterday he made some comments about a woman on tv (he said that she is hot).I asked him why he was saying that in front of him.He answered that he don't know why we can not talk about that kind things.

And the last time he was going away for 3 months,he asked me if there were some other guys who wanted me.We are together since a year,before we met he was with somebody else.She left him and went back to her ex.

Answer 1

Your bf sounds really insecure and insensitive. Let him know that you don't appreciate the comments he is making. It's YOUR choice to be in that kind of relationship. You are the one who teaches people how to treat you and if you're allowing him to do it, then you're saying that it's okay. Let him know that you choose to be with him because (state all his good points) and you feel _____ (state emotion: disrespected, etc) when he talks like that. In the future, you want him to ____ (be more respectful of your feelings and not bring up things that are irrelevant to your relationship. Make it clear to him what you want and don't let him get away with sly, snippy comments.  

Answer 2

Maybe you should try proof reading your question before you submit it. It makes NOOOO sence.

Answer 3

there is no respect for you here. do yourself a favour and leave before he really hurts you and he will.

Answer 4

Well I would say he believes he's being funny or he really believes you want or are seeing someone else.  Which means he's a little insecure.  You can try talking to him and let him know that kind of joking bothers you and you dont find it funny.  See how that goes.

Answer 5

Maybe because of that, he has low confidence in himself.  It also sounds like he uses the 'that girl is hot' 'do you think that guy is hot' to protect himself from you hurting him like his ex did.  Meaning, he will expect it if you do the same.

It's like a psychological thing to protect himself.

How long were him and his ex together?  Don't ask him though, you don't want to open closing wounds..  Just keep him knowing that you are only into him, and dismiss those comments, and in little time he should learn that you're not the same.