I don't understand this, how do women expect men to put them 1st, when they won't do the same?

Question

I just saw a question, where the person was asking, whether your spouse or children comes 1st. Most if not all said the children should come first. Do women really believe this? If you do, how should expect your husband to the same? What if you and your husband have kids by other people, why would you get mad if he does the same. Or even if he put his mother before you. He's doing the same as you, putting another person before him. I always thought it suppose to be:

W--Wife 1st

O-- Offspring 2nd (all children involved)

M--Mother 3rd (including inlaws)

B-- Brother 4th (all siblings)

And God superseeds them all.

Answer 1

It's not a competition. Your presumption is childish. You love your children differently than you do your spouse. But since your children require protection (in fact, you are OBLIGATED to provide protection and nurturing to your children), your love for your child is more of a caretaking nature. If someone came into the house with a gun and asked me to pick between my husband and my child, I wouldn't have to think for a minute. I would save my child, as much as I love my husband.

And no, your "god person" doesn't supercede anything in my book, as I don't believe in it.

Clearly, you don't have children, or you wouldn't need this explained to you.

Answer 2

99% of the time my husband and I agree to put our children first but if things really conflict and we have to make a choice it's always each other first.

The way I look at it is this:  My husband will be around long after the kids are grown and gone and have their own families to look after.  

We both do the best we can for our kids but kids aren't forever (nor should they be, a good parent raises a child to be independent and to stand on their own two feet) and we don't want to end up being one of those couples whos kids grow up and go away and they find themselves with nothing left in common.

So no, all women do not really believe this.

Answer 3

Oh really what a selfish lot you are. Every one of us has family, friends,children and significant primary others. This doesn't mean that anyone ever comes first. We give time and energy to those we care for in equal amounts but usually as and when they need it.For example if my partner is upset because his car has broken down I'll comfort him but if my best friend has just found out she has cervical cancer then obviously I'll divert my time and attention to her. If my partner thinks his car is more important than my friends life then I'm better off without him. I get the impression that you've been the subject of something similar and your nose is now out of joint. There isn't a list or a hierarchy there are People we care for and time we have available and if we are genuinely caring and considerate people we'll prioritise and they just have to put up with it.

Answer 4

I believe you have it just a bit misconstrued. Woman and children first then the men. Okay children are put ahead of anyone else because they are our future. If we lose our children then we lose out as a species. It goes the same for people with children from previous relationships. Nobody should be jealous if they are then they have some serious moral issues to deal with. I would expect my spouse to put the children first, then me! I can fend for myself more than the children!

Answer 5

Well, to disagree with a previous answer, I do have children.  And I cannot stand the "flesh and blood" c**p people throw out.  The same DNA does not in any way form a stronger bond between two people.  Some people allow that to influence their mentality, but there is no scientific evidence to back that up.  Only a theory on twins.  Regardless, you don't ever put a person first.  You categorize needs.  I put my family's needs first.  Then wants.  I can't say who I put first, I love each member of my family a great deal.  It is different types of love, obviously, but a great deal, none the less.  And if someone came into my home with a gun and asked me to choose, I would sure hope that I was a better shot, or would die protecting my family than choosing someone else in my family to die.  Sounds to me like someone got married for the wrong reasons.  Ah, I digress.  Love your family, whole heartedly.  Cherish every moment you have with each of them.  Share your life with someone who accepts you, and doesn't demand things from you they are not willing to give themselves.  And never, NEVER, marry someone who wouldn't think for a second, about you dying.  That's just sick.

some women need to cut the ambilical cord.  Ah, I digress again.  

Best of luck

Answer 6

I agree. But women are often very hypocritical when it comes to romantic relationships.

Just like they expect a man to have lots of money when THEY DON'T.

OR expecting a man to be confident when THEY ARE NOT.

OR expecting a man to take care of them, but refuse to do the same for him.

hypocrisy